if your friend is getting abused and she doesnt want u to tell any one and shes not goin to wat do u do?

Question

she totaly doesnt want me to tell anyone

Answer 1

If shes a minor then you must tell, not to tell would not be being a friend to her in the long run. She needs help to get the abuse stopped ...soon...;

Answer 2

Although your friend asked you not to tell, you need to...she has obviously told you for a reason, now you need to tell someone before she gets hurt even worse. If you are a true friend than you know what needs to be done, in the long run I'm sure she will thank you, cause if you don't tell she will never forgive you for allowing her to get abused. And even if she gets mad and does not talk to you because you did tell at least you know she is not getting abused or hurt any longer. I don't know about you but I could not live with myself knowing my friend was getting abused and I did nothing to help her. You seriously need to tell someone, cause if she really did not want anyone to know, she would not have told you, she is reaching out to you in hopes that you tell someone, so go tell someone NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 3

I am sending your question to the FBI so that they can initiate an ip search on you through yahoo and arrest you as an accomplice to this abuse. I am doing this because Elpeesee says you are an accomplice- therefore you must be held accountable. Or maybe Elpeesee is just trying to scare you into sticking your nose in where it doesn't belong. When your friend gets tired of the abuse, she will take her own actions. Maybe she enjoys the attention she gets from playing the victim. Honestly you should just stay out of it.

Answer 4

GIRL, you got to tell sum1 neways. Just tell sum1 thats close, and wont tell everyone, in other words sum1 who doesnt have a big mouth. Then talk it over w. that person u told, and then u guys decide what to do. Maybe you should tell the friend that is receiving this abuse, that ur going to tell 1 person, and tell her who, and then all 3 of ya'll talk it out...

If you're her real friend, which it seems to be, since she told u and no1 else...then she'll understand, now that i think about it, tell her ur going to tell that one person...if she says no, just say hey >her name<, u have to tell sum1 he >im assuming its a guy< could end up getting carried away and kill u, sry i know it sounds mean, but that will get to her...

PLEASE do something, u always see stuff on the news about g/f getting abused, so stop it urself!!! please tell sum1!!! THAT'S SUM SERIOUS SH!T!!! like my cousins dad raped her, more then once...she was 15...and she told me and my sis at the same time, and we both go, TELL SUM1 IF U DONT THEN I WILL!!! but remember when u tell that person u decide to tell, make sure that person cares, and isnt going to pu$$y out!!!

Answer 5

You really need to tell someone. You should tell a trusted friend or family member, and try to talk to her about telling the police. She needs to get out of that situation as soon as possible. It's hard so she's going to need a lot of support. If things get too bad, and she still doesn't leave, you really need to tell the police. You might loser her as a friend, but it's better than her losing her life.

Answer 6

Look as a friend what you should do is tell someone....i mean be the trur friend that you are and help her.....i was in the same situation as you were but the friend that i am i went and told and well now, she is safe from the abuse....I really think that you should do something...trust me she well thank you in the long run.....

Answer 7

Tell someone!!!!!Talk 2 her first tell her ur goin 2 tell some1 4 her own safety.If ta abuser isn't her parents tell them if not tell her 2 talk 2 a counselor wit u.Tell her ur friendship is important and tat u don't want 2 see her hurt so she nos tat u care about her, and she will be more comfortable about it.

Answer 8

i hate to say it, and i know you wont enjoy contredicting her desicion not to tell anyone. but you have to. there's no way it will stop. and who's to say it might just go farther next time and unfortunately she could end up dead. i had a friend that was abused by her mother, and she told. one day her mom took the knife out, but luckily the phone rang before anything could have happend. you have to tell someone, for her own good. and if you don't tell anyone there's a higher chance of it happening to her own children aswell. but ultimately it's you're decision and i can't, nor anyone else for that matter can make it for you

Answer 9

How old is your friend? If she's young (a teen) you need to tell someone. Her parents, a teacher. But if this is an adult, there's not much you can say. She's got to make her own realization and make her own plan. You can talk to her, support her, and do whatever she needs. But sometimes forcing someone out of that kind of situation can put them in more danger, unfortunately. :-(

Answer 10

Tell someone. You have to tell someone and the abuse has to stop. If you dont want to tell then make it so the appropriate people find out on their own. Set it up like that.