Why is it that some men cannot look you directly in the eye when speaking with you? They always seem nervous and look away or down when I speak with them. I am attractive and have really pretty eyes (so I'm told). Is it because they are shy, insecure or a combination of both? I am single and 99% of the men in my workplace are married. I would never have any interest in any of them because I have a steady boyfriend. What gives here anyway with them not looking you in the eye?
2006-11-17 09:29:00 · 12 answers · asked by Me, Myself & I 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There are many possible reasons for this:
Averted eyes during a conversation usually means discomfort or untruthfulness.
Some may be intimidated by you, but for the most part I would guess that some of these men harbour sexually-charged notions concerning you. I'm quite sure that you are looked at often (not in the eye then either), and there may be some guilt that then makes them act weird when they talk to you.
2006-11-17 09:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some are looking at your breasts...
some are trying NOT to look at your breasts...
some are genuinely shy and have difficulty making eye contact with anyone...
some feel guilty for finding someone other than their spouse attractive and don't know where to look...
some are not shy but become so in front of an attractive woman...
The only thing that can make some men more comfortable is lack of availability... do they know that you are seeing someone? I am not a sexist... my male friends gave me the above synopsis when I was concerned about the same thing. It seems to hold true.
I do have one other category from my life experience... there were two men in my geology department in university who exhibited the same behaviour. They acted that way because they felt women should not be in a "man's field" and resented my success academically. Are any of these fellows threatened by your job performance?
Best Wishes... I hope the conversations improve... ~ Andrea
2006-11-17 09:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Mikisew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a bit younger working in an office, I used to have the same problem. It's like some men think they are going to explode if they look at an attractive girl. It seemed to me they were thinking impure thoughts about me, and to look me in the eyes would expose their thoughts. I wasn't particularly conceited- it was just a feeling I got. It is normal for beauty to be disconcerting for some men, I guess. But these days, with so many being addicted to porn, well, who knows what goes through some people's minds? The best remedy I found was to dress very professionally. Times have changed, and so have styles- but there is still a right way and a wrong way to present oneself at work. We should never feel embarrassed by our beauty, or try to be ugly- just make them see your mind and your skills. Be friendly enough to put everyone at ease, but keep them in their place.
2006-11-17 09:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by catarina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often it is hard if some part(s) of a woman's body is real beautifully shaped not to look at them. Take it as a compliment and your eyes will also be looked at.
2006-11-17 09:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you must present a very stern front...or they are trying to look down your blouse? I can't answer for them, but I sure would like the chance to see what is bothering them..
2006-11-17 09:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by City slicker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fear of being rejected.
Men have different ideas of how to be rejected so if can differ.
2006-11-17 09:31:25 · answer #6 · answered by ◙Blue-Eyed♥Red-Headed♥Bella◙ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only lovers look you in the eye.
so its out of respect in some cultures.
or i just made it up.
2006-11-17 09:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by justhurryupanddie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they do it unconsiously or they are in a bad mood?
2006-11-17 09:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's because they are probably staring at your chest. Men are retarded
2006-11-17 09:33:28 · answer #9 · answered by # 1 sweet pea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u are so confident or beautiful you intimidate them
maybe it's your attitude, what ur saying, it;s boring,
or maybe they are looking at ur boobs!
2006-11-17 09:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋