im 32 weeks pregnant and my childs father...my boyfriend of 3 years and i ended things back when i was 6 months. Another ex Boyfriend of mine has been a great freind threw this hole thing..and really wants to get back together...i didnt date him for long, and because of things i went threw with my childs father i have serious trust issues...but i really do like my ex and want to date him again. Should i go for it? or are all men pigs, and this is just my hormones telling me im lonley? has anyone else dated someone threw pregnancy that wasnt the father?
2006-11-17 09:01:21 · 12 answers · asked by kelly c 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes I have dated someone when I was pregnant with my daughter and the man that I was dating was not the father and he was a great person. But after the baby was born we went our separate ways. So depending on the situation that you are in depends on what you should do but I think that if he makes you happy then maybe you should give it a shot you wont know unless you try. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-17 09:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually have been through this. YEARS ago, my ex and I broke up for 6 months and I dated someone else. I became pregnant but didn't stay with the father because he was physically abusive. My ex kept coming around, and though I was extremely hesitant and didn't believe he could handle the situation, over time he convinced me that he really did love me that much.
I won't lie to you, in the end he and I didn't work out, but it had to do with other issues. He was there through the last months of the pregnancy; he was there at the birth; he fed her and changed diapers; he showed her off to people like she was his; he didn't act weird when the real dad came around. We stayed together till she was 3 years old. He was wonderful and still has a good relationship with her and friendship with me.
My advice is to trust your heart. As long as you actually feel something for him and don't just want a man around, give it a shot. There are some good guys out there.
I wish you all the best.
2006-11-17 09:19:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jojos Mom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you need to focus on YOU AND THE BABY right now. You are not going to have the time OR the energy to give to some man, let alone anyone else. Your mind and your body are going through all kinds of changes right now. It's not a bad idea to have someone by your side through the tough times, a friend perhaps, but starting a new or renewed relationship at this time is definetely bad timing. Stay friends with this guy and see how he deals with you, your mental changes, your hormone changes, and the baby. Check it out through all of that before you go committing yourself to this relationship. I'm not sure if this is your first child, but honey, you are gonna be moody, frustrated, happy one minute, sad the next, and extremely tired.
It's nice that this guy wants to get back together with you. Keep him on the back burner for now and remain friends with him until you get into the groove of being a mom. Let him help you with the baby if he wants. That would be great.
2006-11-17 09:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by Doodlebug 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never date through any pregnancy. I am a man, and I don't believe all men are pigs, but Hun I do know a lot of them are. I had a Friend who had the a similar problem as you. She did get with an ex, and for 2 years now they are doing well. He loves the little boy (Jeff) as if it were his own. Just follow your heart. Good Luck. Everything always has a way of working out.
2006-11-17 09:13:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until after you have the baby to get with anyone besides the father...if theres a chance you might get back together. It seems best to work thigs out with the father but if thats not possible then wait untill after the baby and see how you feel about ur other ex...if u decide while ur pregnant all ur hormones and lonelyness of being alone and pregnant might negativle influence your decision. If your other ex really loves you then he'll understand you want to wait .. but in the end its your life and your decision your the only one who knows all the details and whats best for you and your baby. good luck!
2006-11-17 09:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by sashas_n_tj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot for a man to stay by a woman's side through her pregnancy when the child is someone else's. This is proof for you that he truly cares about you, and will truly care about your child. That is someone you and your baby deserve to have around, so to answer one of your questions - no, not all men are pigs. This one does not sound like one.
On another note, do you genuinly want to be with him? Nobody can tell if you if you're lonely and want someone, or if you truly like this person - that's in your heart, you know the answer to that. If you start dating him, he will get attached to your child, and your child will grow attached to him - so for everyone's sake, make sure he is really what you want before you start something with him.
I have never been in your position, but I know people who have been. It's normal to have trust issues, but you have to eventually try to open yourself up to someone again. It's hard, but if you don't, you will never find the kind of happiness that you need.
Good Luck =)
2006-11-17 09:08:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jitterbug 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's another choice.....why do you need to be with a man?
You're having a wonderful baby, you're free for the first time in 3 years.
Take this time to get ready for your baby and also take sometime to regroup and see what you really want out of life.
Going from guy to guy never allows you to grow as a person.
2006-11-17 09:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never been through that but if you dumped the father I guess you had serious reasons to do so.Now, ifyou wanna date this other guy again do it, just take it slow, you said you don't know him that much so just take it easy and don't putyour hopes up...he could end up being a pig...or he could end up being a prince, that's why you have to get to know him better.
2006-11-17 09:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Baby Ruth habla español 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 16:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by mickelson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would go 4 it he might be the one just dont get to attached in case t dont work out
2006-11-17 09:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by lil_mamas_sk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋