I have something on my mind and its a very long and confussing story but its making me very stressed, miserable and bringing me down and i cant sit still or relax or think about anything else, any suggestions?
2006-11-17 08:58:34 · 16 answers · asked by Em 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ive had this problem before and i made myself sick and i now permantly have an eating disorder which is triggered by stress. Its just to do with someone who i want to be with all the time and i know its not possible or what to do but i see them all day everyday and i dont know what to do because they are all i can think about.
2006-11-17 09:05:22 · update #1
This was used by prisoners of war. Build a castle/house/building in your mind; decorate the rooms, put in furniture; extend the size; go into really fine detail, imagine textures/shapes/sizes - the more complex the better. Every time something you don't want intrudes, go back to your 'building'; re-imagine it, re-decorate it, add/change details. Once one room is complete, begin on another. It will be something only you have created and you will be in charge of it's development/growth: it will allow you to express yourself your way.
2006-11-17 10:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by jabusthexut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any kind of relationship has to be a 2 way thing.
If he's unavailable to you because he's committed to someone/something else or if he doesn't notice you or he has noticed you but doesn't feel the same way, there is nothing you can really do about it.
People can spot "stressed, miserable, down" people a mile off. It won't attract him to you. Upbeat, optimistic, confident and happy are the most attractive qualities someone can have, and attraction is a chemical reaction. It can't be forced.
Learning to give yourself (and your health) the attention you want to give to him is what you should try to focus on.
Is he harming himself for you, in the same way you're harming yourself for him? That alone should make you stop and think.
Unrequited love is one of the most painful things, but if it wasn't mean to be (and you yourself said this), then it wasn't meant to be.
Also by focussing so much on him, you won't see any other opportunities when they come along (i.e other interested single guys). Step back from the situation.
Can you remove yourself from the situation for a while? Not see him everyday? If so, please do it. Distance may help kick-start the healing process. Find other things to do with your time. Hang out with family or friends. Find a hobbie in which to immerse yourself.
Keep busy and try to start healing yourself first and foremost. That way the pining should lessen over time and the healing process will begin.
When you find yourself yearning for him again, just think "what advice would I give to someone in the same situation as me?" Think about it, hard, then act on it.
You may look back in a few weeks/months and wonder what you were thinking giving up so much of you for someone who already has a life elsewhere.
2006-11-17 19:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Jamma354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe doing exercises, read a book magazine, thinking about things that you have to do, go out for a walk, call a friend on the phone, play games online, watch t.v...there is a lot of things you can do it, it happens to me a lot and many of these entertainments help me forget, also if you are a christian like i am pray for it to go away, its the best for me and if you believe in God it will also work for you...
2006-11-17 17:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by grizbel15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to focus on something else............let go the worries, fear ,anger or whatever.......then the answer will filter through, but only if you stop fretting about it. You could be talking yourself around in circles and may not have all the info you need to make an informed decision.
2006-11-17 17:02:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same thing...keeping a list of things to do and cross them off as you go. This trick has always helped me keep moving forward.
If its something that needs to be dealt with...write out a plan and tackle in in steps.
Peace.
2006-11-17 17:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok , can you change anything about the situation to make yourself feel any better ? If not - you have to try your best to let go of this problem or it's just going to eat you up. Good luck!!
2006-11-17 17:02:05 · answer #6 · answered by honeychile72000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is being positive and looking on the bright ol life,just imagine what the solution will be like and smile
2006-11-17 17:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by blackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to "fix" what ever it is that is on your mind or you will literally make yourself sick- Talk to someone if you need to such as a priest or a really good fiend even your mom
2006-11-17 17:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is to short to wish after someone you cant have i now know that after years of heart ache believe me it is not worth the worry and stress if you need council ling go for it it does help good luck
2006-11-17 17:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..........i have the same problem when i get in fights with my friends BUT.....when i get like that all i do is.......think away to fix it, sometimes makes you feel better!.........listen to music...or something fun.....go to disney....take a vacation! your only human and you should not be all worked up, i have the same problem, trust me! if you made a mistake you can ALWAYS go back and fix it...like...saying sorry! and if it does not work than you need to talk someone who understands you..like a friend.....or family
2006-11-17 17:08:48 · answer #10 · answered by figget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋