What happens nxt?Serious answers only pls...all advice appreciated...?

Question

I(I’m a male) told my close female friend how I felt about her and she said we should remain friends.She said it wouldn't feel right going further.

She said she don't deserve my feelings---meaning??
Said she can’t imagine me not being in\part of her life---this mean anything???

We left on good terms,agreeing to remain friends always.After this happened I went quiet on her for over a week to clear my head!She txt me once asking why I went quiet and also txt my mate asking him. I got bck in touch on Monday and her reply mentioned nothing bout what I said(how I felt about her).

I txt her saying how impt the friendship is to me and apologised if I made her feel uncomfortable and hope that we’re cool.Why hasn’t she txt bck for over a day now??(we’re usually in touch everyday!)I say anything wrong?

Would she be feeling odd??Behave differently towards me??Anyone been in this situation themselves?If so,what happened?

Why has she suddenly gone quiet on me??She missing me??

Answer 1

She's just feeling uncomfortable,same as you. It will take awhile for you two to get back to the friendship you had-so take it slow and just let her know that you value her friendship,and will always be there for her.

Answer 2

The reason she doesn't want to be more than just friends is because she feels that since your so important to her as a friend, what if you have an argument in the relationship, and break up. Then your friendship would be ruined too, and she cares and needs you too much to risk that. She probably didn't txt you back because she also needed to clear her head, since you did it too. She probably feels awkward too, and wants the frienship to be the same again.

Answer 3

I was in a similar position once when my best male friend asked me on a date. I felt really wierd because i had shared everything with him for as long as i could remember, things that i would never tell a boyfriend. Luckily we talked it over and decided it may get messy dating so stayed good friends.
As for the lady in your question she may have said she doesnt deserve you as she feels you or thinks you are too good for her or that she is not as caring as you.
Shes probably confused and trying to figure out what to do and thats why shes gone quiet on you. You should go out on an innocent dinner date and properly talk things over. Good Luck.x

Answer 4

I have long been in love with my best friend, he knows it, I know it. He is married, though he wasn't when we first met. In recent years he has confessed his feelings to me, which are similar to mine, but we have never acted upon them.

We are still best friends. Sometimes we text and email every day, sometimes we don't do so for weeks at a time, it doesn't mean we no longer care about each other. Give her some space and time, complex relationships often need it.

Answer 5

it will be hard for her to go back to been how she was with you knowing how you feel about her,
But to me it sounds like she definatly does not have any feelings for you other than friendship
Sorry to say it love but i have been there only the other way round, the horrible thing is that because he was my friend he nursed me through my breakups with my boyfriends it must have hurt him like hell, were not in touch now unfortunately, i hope you find someone you love and who loves you back good luck, you will get over her, at least you had the guts to tell her and now you know, it saves dragging it out. xx

Answer 6

I HAVE BEEN IN THS SAME SITUATION. I TOLD MY LONG TIME FRIEND THAT I LOVED HIM AND STUFF AND WE STOPPED TALKING FOR A LONG TIME. I GUESS HE HAD TO THINK IT THROUGH BECAUSE WE STARTED TALKING AFTER A WHILE. WE ARE NOT TOGETHER BUT OUR FRIENDSHIP IS A LITTLE STRONGER. YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL SHE FEELS LIKE SHE CAN HANDLE BEING AROUND YOU KNOWING HOW YOU FEEL. IT MIGHT TAKE A LONG TIME BUT ITS FOR THE BETTER.SHE MIGHT BE DIFFERENT BUT ITS HER WAY OF COPING WITH IT. SHE ONLY WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND WHICH IS WHY SHE MADE THE COMMENT" I DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO" AND " I DONT DESEARVE THOSE FEELINGS". BUT DONT BE MAD AT HER. WAIT UNTIL SHE COMES AROUND. GOOD LUCK AND I HOPE YOU GUYS STAY FRIENDS.

Answer 7

so many times we're friends with someone and we cross that line..and lose the friendship...sounds like she just wanted to be friends and you crossed over by telling her how you felt..you saw she was uncomfortable but still pressed it,,now she's not talking,,lay back for awhile,,give her some time to think.but don't be surprized if its not the same ever again....

Answer 8

i am in the same situation right now.

sorry, dude, she just wants to keep it as friends. a friend of mine at work (i am a female) confessed that he wanted to date me. i said that i wanted to only be friends.

i tried to act like nothing had happened, so that he wouldn't feel rejected, but he just kept getting the wrong idea. he kept thinking i DID want to date him because i was still talking to him all the time and hanging out with him outside of work. so i decided to back off.

then he thought i was mad and was getting all needy, and so i started to ease back into things but now he just makes "jokes" about "all he's good for is this or that"...wants to know why i don't want to hang out anymore.

he made everything stressful and i feel like evrything i do or don't do is being analyzed by him, and frankly, now, if he keeps acting weird like this, i might not even want to be friends.

give her her space. don't analyze everything she does. if she wants to hang out with you it's because she likes you as a friend. don't jeopardize that by making her uncomfortable and trying to read stuff into all of it.

Answer 9

i think that she really just wants to b friends and that the reason why is she thinks your kewl and all she just doesnt see you like a boyfriend right now i think she went silent because she feels hurt and you need to at least try to talk to her it was sweet and she prolly appreciates it so just stay friends 4 right now but you never no she may b ready someday

Answer 10

She feels awkward she didnt want to hurt your feelings buyt she just DOES NOT fancy you.
have some space for a few weeks, then arrange to meet up. Dont ruin it again.