How do I get my child interested in her homework?

Question

How do I get my ADHD and learning disibilited 9 yr old to like learning. She is not bring homework home or returning it on time.

Answer 1

lay down the law with her. tell her that for not getting good grades or not doing it u can take away priviledges. that should persuade her. if not, tell how much it hurts u to see her get bad grades. tell her u want to see her succeed in life and that she cant do that without doing her homework. also, dont just take away priveledges, set aside time to check up on her. if she is doing badly, lower her allowance or take away more valued priveledges, like friends or phone. then again u dont want her to hate u, so dont come down hard on her the 1st time. but if the bad behavior and grades continue, start getting stricter. she needs to know you mean when u say it. if u say 'the next time you get a C or lower, your grounded', when she gets a C, follow up on it. she'll probably remember those words and say to herself ' moms not serious about this grade thing'. ur words need to be powerful, but not overwhelming.

Answer 2

I would do a schedule and reward system. Ask the school to give her a checklist so she makes sure to bring home the correct material. You then reinforce the checklist with a reward for bringing home the correct work (i.e., praise, treats, games, etc.)

Set a time limit on homework (sometimes cooking timers work well) so she know when homework will end (even if she doesn't do it all at first!). Stick with a certain amount of time (I know most grades recommend this: first grade: 10 minutes, 2nd grade 20 minutes and so on.) Kids with ADHD tend to lose focus because it all seems overwhelming. A time limit will help with focus but try to make it visual in stead of simply saying "five more minutes".

Use another checklist for homework. 1. math p. __, 2. language arts worksheet, etc. Have her check off the work she has completed so she can see progress. Reward her for doing more and more each day. Make sure she knows what she is working for (i.e., tv time, computer time, preferred activity, etc.) when homework is complete.

Try not to turn it into a battle. I know how hard that can be! Start small. Think of homework as building blocks. If writing is too difficult don't worry about spelling. You have to take everything on block at a time. Reward her a lot in the beginning. Praise her even if she doesn't complete it all at first, but tries her best during the time limit. Teach the process first, then move on to quality of work.

Hopefully maturity will encourage her to want to complete work to get good grades. Until then build slowly and stay positive! Good luck!

Answer 3

I would use the same methods that work for others. Use a reward system for accomplishment. Make is just hard enough to be interesting, but not too hard so it is a barrier.

If you want to teach her anything, teach her that labels like ADHD and learning disabilities are not crutches that will eliminate her need to work hard. If you or her starts using that for an excuse to fail, she won't find out until it's too late that no employer will care.

Answer 4

I think that children with learning disabilities and/or ADHD tend to have a lot of anxiety and fear about their schoolwork and homework and their ability to understand it. I did not have these conditions and I still had terrible anxiety about doing well in school that actually led me to avoid doing it, to "accidentally" forget to bring it home, etc. It's good that you are taking a sympathetic approach to your child instead of just punishing her. What I think is important is for you to ask her a lot of questions in a sympathetic manner about why she doesn't like her work or what bothers her about school, if that is what is going on. Letting her know you understand her fears and/or boredom will go a long way towards helping her calm down and not dread homework. But of course you also have to let her know you still expect her to do her work, but you are there to help her when she needs it.

Above all things, talk to her in a calm and reassuring way. Tell her, "Everyone has to do their work. I have my work to do and you have your work. But that doesn't mean we are alone. We can always get help in understanding what we are expected to do." Good luck to you.

Answer 5

i think if you tell her that if she does her hw everyday on time she will get a sticker and when you get to like 10 stickers you get a toy?
that might work