is there a stage in our life where we feel unsatisfied with our own selves?

Question

is it abnormal to have such a feeling?can we then still have the chance to change and to rebuild what was broken in a way or another?

Answer 1

If a list of at least 7 people has answered your question then , obviously your not the only one to be feeling like that.
my advice, for what its worth.
when we , as humans begin to feel worthless or unsatisfied then that's the time to do something.
walk down the road to morrow,put your shoulders back and smile at strangers, you will be surprised how many smile back. some may think your nuts but you will be connecting with people.

offer to help someone who is less fortunate that you if you feel you can't change your life, change someones Else's.
something extraordinary happens,you throw a pebble into the pond of human kindness and there is a ripple effect,.before you know it , you feel fantastic. your head is held high, your shoulders are free of the weight you have been dragging along all your life, and new roads open up in the jungle of life.
............ i know .
i was once that pebble.

Answer 2

I think it's natural at several stages in your life to look back & evaluate yourself, where you've been and where you're going. My mother told me that in your 30's you go through a restless period where you're unsatisfied with your situation, whatever it may be. If you're single & free, you wish you had family & stability. If you're married with children you feel trapped & long for freedom. It's hard to say. I went through angst in my 20's (especially after graduating university & wondering what I was going to do with my education & my life). Every day you have the chance to change. It's never too late. If you're not happy with your life, you have the power to change it. It just takes work. You have to ask yourself where the restlessness is coming from. Don't give up on something that's really valuable because you think the grass is greener elsewhere. Sometimes the grass isn't greener...Sometimes the restlessness is because you feel something lacking within yourself (not necessarily the person you're with etc.) Some people need to "find themselves." Do some soul-searching to find who you are & what you really want. The bottom line is that you are responsible for your own happiness. You are as happy as you choose to be. If you don't like you're life then you can either change it or change your attitude toward it. Just don't stay in a rut.

Answer 3

There are many stages in life. Puberty, love, hate etc. Depending on your age and what has transpired in the past can put you in this state of mind. Perhaps someone has told you all your life you are worthless. that would make you unsatisfied with yourself. But, if you take that statement and turn it to your advantage then the stage would go away with the feeling of accomplishment you have within yourself. Don't try to satisfy anyone else other than yourself. when this happens then you will shine not only within but on the outside. Positive results will help this happen. Anyone can change, but it's hard to break a bad habit and being negative is at times a habit. Your train of thought has been sidetracked thats all.

Answer 4

It's not abnormal we all feel like that at some stage that's life.Sometimes it seems nothing will ever get better but don't lose heart it will.We had a year when my mother died and 3 other family members died within 6 months, my husband had a heart attack and my daughter split from her husband who was abusing her plus a few not so serious things,at the time we were all down to zero but as time passed we got over it and in a way it makes you a stronger person.Keep your chin up and think positive.

Answer 5

Well no it isn't abnormal to feel like that. Most people go through stages in their lives when they fell unsatisfied and frustrated with how their life is going. These feelings give us the chance to re-evaluate our lives and prioritise what is important to us, whether we are in the right job, and if not how to change it by way of training or self esteem. The answer to your question is not to feel like one of life's victims, if you are unhappy about something then be positive and do something about it, because at the end of the day there is only you that can do it !

Answer 6

I think the true question here is "Is there a stage in our life where we feel satisfied with ourselves". The answer is "No, there isn't". As soon as we manage to achieve a goal, we get happy and pleased for a while, but then, we become disatisfied with something else, thus, set another goal and this process seems to go on and on forever. So, it is far from being "abnormal"; I would say it is human. And to answer to your second question, yes, everyone has the ability to change his/her life as long as there is will, determination and courage in front of the unknown and the less familiar.

Answer 7

oh i am so sorry for you. your name even sounds so depressing. I am going through the same thing. I am 24, a mother of two and am in a relationship that i feel like i am failing at. I think that it is normal to feel this way not just at one point in our lives but several different times. have you tried to get back into school and making yourself feel better about yourself? that is what i am doing right now. I think that everyone has a chance to change but THEY have to want to. no one can make you want to change but yourself. you might have to start at the ground up like i am but be hopeful and take it day by day. here is something that i heard the other day and i really liked it and i think of this all the time now. there are three kinds of days yesterday today and tomorrow God wants two of those days he is so strong and good and you are so weak so he asks if you will give yesterday and tomorrow to him and he wants you to only worry about today. I think about that alot and that is what i have been trying to do lately and it has been helping me alot. I hope i was able to give you some thought and hope. I hope all goes well for you. good luck.

Answer 8

My dear,
Many of us feel as you do. Dissatisfied with what we have achieved, dissatisfied with what we are, dissatisfied with what life has dealt us. It is not in the least abnormal.
If you are young there is plenty of scope to alter things. With perseverance, courage and determination, you can make a difference. It is only when you reach your sixties that it becomes more difficult, though I know persons who have taken degrees at that age, decided to pack up and see the world, remarried, have written books and became famous authors like Mary Wesley...

So it is never too late. Nothing is final until you are dead, and who knows, even God , if he exists, may make compromises.
Life is a challenge. Pick up the gauntlet, look for new opportunities and tell yourself every day as you wake up "I CAN DO IT". Good Luck!

Answer 9

It's perfectly normal. Most ppl go through that many times in their lives. The difference between a good person and a loser is that the good one will choose to "change and rebuild". There will always be something better.

Answer 10

I think that the stage is only a stage and everybody goes through it once or more in their whole lifetime...We can always change and rebuild what is broken by changing it ourselves...don't let anyone try to tell you better.