Everytime some aquaintance,,,notice AQUAINTANCE brings up?

Question

my husband tragic accident from 20 YEARS AGO...it causes me depression because i remember how DIFFICULT IT WAS DURING THAT TIME AND HAVING TO RAISE A BABY ALONE...(don't tell me to go see some counselor...BECAUSE I have done that and she helped...basically '"THE COUNSELOR told me NOT TO RE-live it because it causes me PAIN..."...STILL AFTER 20 YEARS...people that may not have had a tragedy may not understand....but i do...NOW this person brought up the situation in the store...i was walking and saw her and i know from past EXPERIENCE...THIS PERSON LOVES TO BRING UP **** TO MAKE YOU SAD, OR WHATEVER HER MOTIVE IS.....i was not raised to be rude...but i hate this aquaintance.!!..NOTICE I WAS WALKING AWAY FROM HER....and she says..."Hi, how are you?'...i say i am doing fine....immediately she focuses on my husband's accident...(which i feel IS VERY RUDE TO EVEN BRING UP.. ( ..now.isay..."the smiths and i doNOT talk aboutthat painful time...and walk away..NOW WOULD YOU "GET THAT" AND never

Answer 1

You are right, some people never learn. I think what you say is more acceptable than what I would have come up with. So good for you.

Answer 2

I would suggest to be direct to her without being rude.

The next time she brings this up ask her why she would comment on something that happened 20 year ago that causes you pain.

In this way she knows where you stand and if she brings it up again it would be clear that she is causing a problem.

I also dislike people who are only happy when they make others miserable.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I'd politely tell them that it really brings up painful memories whenever they bring that up and that you'd appreciate them not doing so. If they feel they must continue then ask them to please stay away from you and that you really don't need a negative unthoughtful person like them around you