2006-11-17 08:01:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing wrong with reminiscing.
2006-11-17 08:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by WyoHunter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, the illusion of the good times more than the bad times from the lost love is much stronger. As time goes by, we forget the tears and just remember the joys. Then we build up some kind of romantic fantasy around the old beau to such a point that we begin to think that any current love just can't come up to the old Love's "standards". Who are we fooling? Just ourselves. You just have to let go, have to let go.
One day, you may bump into the former beau, and you may surprise yourself at your reaction. You may find that he just isn't attractive anymore, seems dull and boring, and lacks the ambition that he seems to have had back then, when the world was fresh and new. Sometimes, that's what it takes - having realty smack you in the face. Seeing the beau NOW may help to wipe out the old memories so that you can focus on the good guy you are with now.
Love for the present. That was then; this is now.
2006-11-17 16:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is very normal to think about your first love. i think most everyone does think of their first love for the rest of their life. It doesn't mean you don't love your current love at all. You just never love the same as the 1st time. It's the hardest to get over and the sweetest to remember. Just make sure it's just a memory and that you're not pursuing anything further with the person and it's fine. It has no impact on your current relationship. However, do not mention this to your lover. it will only cause them to feel jealous and threatened and to hate that person.
2006-11-17 16:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by Stevie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that everyone will always remember their first love because it was with that person that we learned how to love another romantically. Even if you hate that person now somewhere deep inside you will still always feel something. And no it doesn't mean that you don't love your current love. I really do believe that it is possible to be in love with two different people since you might love those two different people for complete different reasons since no one is the same. But I think that if you're doubting that you have feelings for your current love it could be because you really dont. When you're in love you KNOW IT.
2006-11-17 16:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on the manner of what you are thinking about.
I had a heck of a hard time getting over my first true love. Over 15 years, I would slip into time frames of thinking about her...mistakes I made...different things. I think we always wonder "what would it have been like?"
As long as you are not like fantasizing about the other person while you are making love to the current...and totally obsessed with why it didn't work out or wanting to have them back...
I think you are fine.
The answer to question 2 -- does the feeling of love not live up to your first love? or what you feel in your heart the love is? Those could be outside issues completely separate from the 1st love question.
2006-11-17 16:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Randal D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think about my first love, But I also realize that my first love was 10 years ago, and I know I have changed SO MUCH in the past 10 years and so has he.. the boy that was my first love is gone, in his place a man stands. I dont know that man! But I'll never forget the boy! I am completely in love with my husband, So no... It does not mean that you wont love your current love, You'll just keep the first one in your heart forever. Sheryl crow sang, THE FIRST CUT IS THE DEEPEST, she was talking about the first love. Its always the most emotional and always the deepest, and You'll NEVER EVER forget it.
2006-11-17 16:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe you never get over your first love. I fell in love with a guy 8 yrs ago. We broke up almost 5 yrs ago and I haven't seen him in 2yrs. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him.
It doesn't mean you can't love current guy, but it's part of getting older. You'll have to share your heart with other people. First love is gonna have to scoot over to let other people in.
Hope that helps. Good luck in love. Seriously. I know it's tough.
2006-11-17 16:10:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not its not wrong to think about your first love. I still do and so does my Husband, we are even open in talking about it. I love my husband but I still remember those first times with my first love. Your BF/GF thinks about thier first love too. Everyone does. I will always have a speical place in my heart for my first love!
2006-11-17 16:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Loca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking about him in what way? Your first love will always have a place in your heart, it doesn't mean you don't love the person you are with.
2006-11-17 16:03:55 · answer #9 · answered by Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your 1st love represents all the first feelings like that that you have experienced. It's hard not to think about it sometimes. It has nothing to do with your future though - unless he is in it. Move on - and enjoy the memories, but don't dwell on it.
2006-11-17 16:04:31 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means you still think about your first love.
2006-11-17 16:03:28 · answer #11 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋