everyone in town knows the guy is a drunk but no one does anything about it. many other guys just follow his lead. we just want to go to the mens club-no women permitted- to socialize and watch sports. his 77 year old father has 2 cases deliveed a week what is wrong with this person.
2006-11-17 07:55:50 · 12 answers · asked by elliepenelly 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he needs tto be in an institution and get counseling to realize what hes doing with his life. theres nothing wrong with him. its an addiction, which is a disease. you cant control it once you get addicted.
2006-11-17 07:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is himself!!!!!!!!! He is the only one who can make the decision to stop drinking. He may never want to stop. You can make the decision to stop having the person in your life. But the drinking thing is up to him.I was married to an alcoholic and one thing I had a hard time coming to terms with was how no one else seemed to care. Everyone knew Mark had a "drinking problem". It always bothered me that his friends would still drink with him even though he couldn't control the amount he drank. I also was bothered by the fact that his parents were both alcoholics "functioning" alcoholics so the problem didn't seem as noticeable because that lifestyle worked for them. I suggest talking to your friend and seeing if he feels he has a drinking problem. Don't do it when he is intoxicated. "no use talking to a drunk drunk" Tell him your concerns but be prepared for his reaction. And don't expect things to change to how you would like them to be. It's hard being in a relationship with an alcoholic. Al-anon is an organization parallel to AA but it is for family and friends of alcoholics. You could always try that. But again it's for you to find ways to cope not to cure him............that's up to him.............Good luck to you and your friend!!!
2006-11-17 16:09:12 · answer #2 · answered by Susan C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am having major problems trying to figure out your question. But I will answer to the best of my understanding. I consider myself to be an alcoholic. And I know I have a problem. It is a hard struggle. But keep in mind that alcoholics need support. They are good people too. They are called functioning alcoholics. They hold down jobs, have familes, attend church regularly, etc. What this person needs to do is admit that he has a problem. He must take the first step. That is the hardest part. Don't be confrontational with him. Just sit down and politely level with him. Be a good person about this. The man sounds like he really needs help for his addiction.
2006-11-17 16:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by cannonball 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing can make an alcoholic change until he hit his own bottom. Even then he will probably go through a couple of relapes. If he is lucky he will finally come out, but it's all within him. Some people don't want to change & resent being forced to change.
2006-11-17 16:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by ChaliQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to stop drinking, the person has to hit rock bottom and say enough is enough. If this doesn't happen, the person is a lost cause, because they have to WANT to change.
2006-11-17 15:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by Ha Ha Charade You Are................... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing you can do to a person who doesn't want to stop. The best thing you can do is plant the seed that he needs to go to an AA meeting. If he wants to stop he may be willing to go.
2006-11-17 16:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ones I've talk to said you have to hit rock bottem.
There has to be a lot of pain and little pleasure
2006-11-17 16:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have to hit rock bottom in order to realise for themselves that they have a serious problem. I mean you can force him to go to rehab, but chances are it won't work - he needs to want to do it for himself. It's only a matter of time.
2006-11-17 16:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one person can make an alcoholic change. The alcoholic must do it himself or herself.
2006-11-17 16:12:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that will make an alcoholic change is his/her own mind. there is nothing you can say or do. it must come from within.
2006-11-17 16:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Robert P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋