My best friend and I are both 17, very outgoing, and successful. We're also both virgins and we pride ourselves on this quality. About a week ago, we were shocked when her little sister who is only 13 years old came to us and told us that she was pregnant by a guy our age! What should I do to help her? She's as good as my own sister, and I have no idea what to do.
2006-11-17 07:44:56 · 26 answers · asked by Emma S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
The best thing to do is first... comfort her... I'm sure she's scared out of her mind! Next, make sure her parents know and that she has gotten to the doctor.
Most importantly, be there for her. She is going to have a hard time... no matter what her choice is in this. Help her research her options. Be like her big sister if that's what you feel like. She may lose friends and feel very lonely. Don't judge her (like I'm sure lots of people on here will be doing). It's sad, but she is a very young girl who will have to grow up very fast. She's going to need all the support she can get.
2006-11-17 07:51:57 · answer #1 · answered by tonetones03 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Go to a parent that will be cool and not flip. This is something that an adult should deal with. It will all come out in the end anyway. This is serious she is just a baby and does not need a baby. Even if she asks you not to and even if she gets mad at the moment, its what is best.
By the way I am 38 and have 3 kids, i had 4 but gave my first up for adoption. She was born when i was 15. It was the hardest thing i ever did but in the end it was best for both of us.
2006-11-17 07:54:20 · answer #2 · answered by cajohnson667 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
The only thing I can tell you is to make sure she doesn't have to go through it alone. Going through a pregnancy can be very scary, especially to a girl so young. Let her know she has people to depend on. Try and make her feel as comfortable as possible. However, don't take all of the pressure of her, she needs to know she is a parent now, and she has to deal with the mistake she made. Tell her it's not going to be an easy road, but she as to make a life not only for herself now, but for her child. So she's definitely going to have to grow up faster than most, but that it doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. I know first hand its not the end of the world just use it as a stepping stone, and learn from her mistake. Alll she can do is build from it.........Soon she'll have someone who thinks she's their world..........
2006-11-17 07:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by mitch 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be there for her. She will need someone to talk to and I'm sure she will appreciate your support. Try not to be too critical on her, because it is a tough time for her.
Also, she should go to your local planned parenthood to speak to a professional about all her options and make sure that if she sticks with the pregnancy that IT is a healthy one.
Good luck to her.
2006-11-17 09:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Day 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is give her a lot of support and stand by her and tell her parents nicley not to press charges on him cause then the baby wont have a dad and then it will be harder for her cause she needs him there to help her but really give her suupport cause thats one thing i didnt have when i had my baby at 14 (still with the daddy) all i had was him and his familey not my own they disowned me no matter wat a baby wont ruin her life it will just make her grow up faster a lot faster and she is not a slut (talking to everyone that called her one) if she has only slept with him and she loves him then no shes not a slut
2006-11-17 08:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by lil_mamas_sk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u can do is be there for her no matter what her choices are if she chooses to keep the baby then help with what ever she needs help with and if she chooses to give it up for adoption u will defenatly need to be there i know that would be hard for me to do and if she chooses to have an abortion that would also be hard i dont believe in abortion but help her through what ever she chooses to do if u or her need to talk heres my email address eaw_mkj@yahoo.com im 15 and have had alot of experience with kids because i have helped raise one
2006-11-17 09:18:05 · answer #6 · answered by eaw_mkj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, this 17-yr-old boy needs his a** to get thrown in jail! The girl will need professional counseling, preferably with her family members involved. At such a young age, I'd lean towards abortion or giving the child up for adoption. Best of luck to her.
2006-11-17 08:32:00 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
13 is very young too have a bubs.
it is shocking that a person your own age has got her pregnant.
you could suggest an Abortion but this isnt for everyone, but since she is so young i would be suggesting it.she hasnt even lived a life yet,and to be tied down with the responsibilities of a bubs at such a young age???????????
2006-11-17 07:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
the best thing you can do is keep being her friend and support her. she's gonna need it. She's at the point in here life as you know since your 17 now, a lot of changes.
2006-11-17 08:22:51 · answer #9 · answered by TC_43 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be there for her. Stand by her when she tells her parents, etc. She's going to need all the support she can get.
Congrats to you on being a virgin. You don't find that too often anymore. I'm proud of you!!! :)
2006-11-17 07:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋