My good good friend died Monday and i want to do something nice for the family of him?

Question

Me and some friends made a huge poster with his name, birth-death, pic, and some other stuff and it was totally awesome
and i made a huge banner that said "YOU WILL FOREVER BE MISSED" and had people sign it. It filled really quickly, but then my principals did the same thing and made two banners and had more people sign them. Then i talked to my prinicpal about an idea i had to like plant a tree or garden in rememberance of him, like dedicate it to him and all. BUUUUT i wanna do something by MYSELF id make a photo album but i dont have pics of him. which suck, should i go around my neighborhood and getr donations?

So I guess what im trying to say is, does anyone have any ideas for things that i can do in rememberance if him and for his family.

if it helps at all. im almost 16 and he was only 14!! it was less than a month till his 15th b-day
here is a site to look at his obituary http://www.hansonrunsvold.com/2006/Justin_Ryba.htm
please consider looking at it, tell me if you do

Answer 1

So sorry to hear of the death of your friend, I know how hard that is. How about this - get all of his friends to write down their favorite stories or memories of him, and put them into an album or something to give to his folks? It would help them to know how many friends he had and how much he was loved, and will show them a side of him that maybe they never knew.

Answer 2

Your friends death can be seen as symbolic of the nature of lack of strong connections in relationships in modern materialistic socioties; I really shouldn't be here answering questions but I lost my mother when I was nine years old, and what is strange is that my grandmother who adopted me said to me recently that "The friends you have when you are young are not the same friends you will have when you are older." So think about the investments that have been made and what losses of personal attachment mean for investment of the effort of the life energy that gives you the capacity to continue actions of healthy interaction with the ALIVE LIFE with this world here and from day to day, I am not sure how this is signifigant to your question but there is something to learn and use here with this loss, as you age you learn that there are some things that are not sustainable (the friendships which are in some segments of your lifespan particularly youth, in the past could not be maintained because people had to move away to goto school or jobs or with familys or things of that nature) the mobility allowable in todays technology is both increaseing the actuality of this by mindlessness of entertainment to create complacency for the materialistic persuits that are common and yet the level of communications capacity can decrease that, so if you wanted to look at the source of the death of your friend and provide the elimination of that suffering for people of the future (native american indians) then you can use microsoft onenote 2007 demo to gather information on databases like the ones used for the library of the Univerisity of Phoenix online, and nature.com and ieee.org and once you have learned some of the details of the nature of the science which deals with the source of the persons death you can search for the people which you can figure are someone willing to communicate with you about this like student clubs at universities, MS OneNote 2007 demo will alow you to share real time updateable notebooks on the topic. My personal page has more information the link is on my profile.

Answer 3

First, I"m sorry for your loss, it's always tough to lose a loved one, but even harder when they are so young. When my brother in-law died he was 19. We had bought a book for people to sign, and what ended up happening was that everyone wrote what they would always remember about him, what made them love him and want to be his friend, and what their favorite memory of him was. After awhile when things had settled down, we all looked through at what people had written. It was nice for us to know that so many people had loved him, and it was nice to see all the ways in which HE had touched the lives of others. If you want something more personal that is just from you, you could possibly do the same thing, only from just you. Write what your favorite memories of him are, the things that made you want to be his friend, the things you will never forget. It may be tough at first for his family to read, but I promise that they will be glad to have such a beautiful look into their son's life. Also you can ask them what you can do for them, let them know that you are willing to help with anything they need. You have my deepest sympathy, and I will keep you and his family and loved ones in my prayers.

Answer 4

Hi Samantha, I did look at the obituary. I am gong to pray for him.... I know how you must feel, as I lost a good friend in July in a car accident.

You could bring balloons, with his favorite colors....

Answer 5

I'm sorry for your friend. You should just leave his family be for awhile. Don't keep bring up the idea any worse that there son is dead. You can dedicate something to him, but it would be best for you and his family to wait awhile.

Answer 6

Sounds like your friend was one of a kind! insteadof trying to get money together for them, or something like that: maybe you could just visit them and let them know how much their son was appreciated and loved. Sure, maybe they're not going to want to talk about his death... but as one of his close friends, maybe it what they need. Just to know you cared deeply for him. Tell them you didn't know what else to do but that you just wanted to visit to say you're sorry.

I'm sorry for your loss...
Good luck with everything.

Ashley

Answer 7

i think its really sad about your friend and all but the whole gift idea i would have to say listen to your heart and make or do what you think is best for you and them!! hope this helps and sorry for the loss of your friend

Answer 8

first off i am so sorry. but i would get a big boguet of flowers and go to the cemitary with them...good luck

Answer 9

I think, for the future, you could visit his family monthly or weekly if you can, so they can never feel that he died.