This is the second man I've had this sort of problem with. The first was in a long term relationship. Neither of them asked me out or anything, but they were very liberal with compliments, very accomodating. They asked questions about my relational status etc, but never mentioned the fact that they were involved. The married one even talked about how he was attracted to me since he first saw me... I think they would have allowed it to go on if I hadn't been direct and asked. The thing that bothers me is the fact that they didn't/don't see anything wrong with the friendship. Isn't that playing with fire? How do I explain it to them?
2006-11-17 07:27:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why tell them anything more. Just tell them you are NOT interested period and then don't have anything to do with them. Easy.
2006-11-17 07:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow an actual consider human being. Of course it is playing with fire and that is exactly what they want a little fire. Their relationship/marriage is burned out and they are looking for a little side action to hea thigns up again. You are fortunately smart enough to not want to be "the other woman" so great for you. However, you will never be able to change their ways. So, just tell them that you are not comfortable in this type of relationship.
2006-11-17 07:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by javelin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No harm in friendship, however it does sound like they were interested in a lot more. Just be firm and tell them you are not interested. Even when I was married I had a number of female friends/acquaintances some of whom were very attractive,it was up to me and these ladies as to what was acceptable.
2006-11-17 11:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the friendship as long as you set FIRM guidelines about the "friendship" status.
Any relationship is risky in one form or another.
Everything cannot be approached as "what if this happens...or I let this happen".
If you want to be friends you should...but just make intentions clear...and stick by those intentions.
2006-11-17 07:33:35 · answer #4 · answered by Randal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had this happen too. I think it's just an ego boost for them. Don't take it too personally. Their manners are based on a different time. They just want to know if they are still attractive enough to have a young woman pay attention to them.
2006-11-17 07:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have no advice for you because it sounds like you are handling the situation very well already -- just keep doing what you're doing. How refreshing to hear from someone with such a well-developed conscience!
2006-11-17 07:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they are still pushing the issues tell him to talk to his wife. If he has gotten your message, that you are not interested move on and just be glad you aren't married to him.
We can not police every evil doer. Trust me Karma is a mother and he will eventually get his.
2006-11-17 07:42:21 · answer #7 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to explain it....they know. They just don't care....and you're not going to be able to make them care....
So stick to your guns, don't end up in the place where these males' significant other's are. They made a choice. You make yours. It's about all you can do.
2006-11-17 11:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont explain if you not happy with the fact their married dont be friends as their spouses may be okay with this as it is 2006 and just because your married doesn't mean you cant have friends by your reasoning cant have other wives as friends as that's not right well
2006-11-17 07:45:05 · answer #9 · answered by ariesfunram 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the friendship didn't pass any line acceptable line is OK.
Friendship is friendship and is up to you if you want keep it or dump it from beginning.
2006-11-17 07:31:22 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋