married 25 years. am i suppse to just give up?
2006-11-17 07:24:49 · 23 answers · asked by ardie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a fifth of Jack and that will solve all your problems!
2006-11-17 07:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I want you to know that it goes both ways. Not all women get this way but some do. It could be the change in life that she is going through. How about finding out if this may be going on. Have you talked to her. Do you have good communication skills together. She maybe feeling sorry about this too, if you guys had a great sex life. Try some new things, make some romance back in your lives. Right now my husband can't have sex and we have had a very loving life without it. Sometimes you love someone, you have to make changes.. We re in our 50's and we seem to be doing fine. I miss it, but I love him more. Talk to her.
2006-11-17 15:33:58 · answer #2 · answered by BJ B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 57 and lost interest in sex with my husband because: he got fat, he whined all the time, he had no idea how to get me excited and would not try new things, all he really wanted to do was sit in a chair and watch TV.
Are you interesting? SEXY? Romantic on occasion? Can you surprise her at all? Can you spend a whole day NOT complaining about everything?
Pretend she is a brand new prospect for dating. Pretend you have to start over. Pretend you know nothing about her and are dying to get to know her, since she is so hot you can't wait to get her clothes off.
I am sexier now as a 57 year old divorcee than I ever was when I was married to that lump.
Go wow her pants off!
2006-11-17 15:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Monica M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They absolutely do not!! There may be a period around peri-menopause and menopause where she is not "herself", but that really doesn't last long. You need to educate yourself and be supportive during that time.
Perhaps you could bring her flowers unexpectedly, clean the house, send her a silly singing telegram - anything and everything to help her feel wanted and special. Men tend to take that for granted, especially after 25 years together. Put some effort in, and you will probably be richly surprized and rewarded!
2006-11-17 16:16:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not all Women loose interest in Sex when they over 50.No you should not have to give it up.Maybe you two can talk about this and fix the problem befor its too late,Women wake up there are many Women out there who are looking for Love.
2006-11-17 15:29:08 · answer #5 · answered by rhoda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a problem with one or the other of them. I still haven't lost mine yet at all. But like on my moms case, she cut my dad off when he was just 40. He has been without for 43 years now. Now you guys figure that one out. Most of you would go crazy and more than likely cheat on your wives, but not my dad, he loves mom too much to want to be with another woman period!!! I also know at least two other couples that are in their 90's and are still active with each other.
2006-11-17 15:34:34 · answer #6 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel. im 46 and met a woman 52 and in the beginning she screw me like a porn star, then all of a sudden she pulled the famous our relationship needs to be based on love not sex, and except for just laying there and letting me get my jollies, our sex life is non existant. the bad this is im gone 3-4 weeks at a time (i drive a truck) and u would think that she would be ready. i think it was the alcohol in the beginning and now she has quit drinking. she did say that whe will now take a few drinks to relax to give me what i expect. for u and me it seems that we have to decide what is important and for me it will be sex, i can always find another woman. as i see it it is our duty to love them, but if a woman loved us the would make sure our sexual needs are met, cuz if they don't there are others who will
2006-11-17 15:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by keithy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is my understanding that for women in my family this is not a problem. So, I'm not concerned for myself when I am over 50.
However, for your situation, you absolutely need to communicate with your wife about your sexual needs not being met. You two need to come to some sort of arrangement. Be honest, be sincere, be nice, and most of all be understanding. In return she should also offer the same courtesies to you.
2006-11-17 15:51:42 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine lost interest at 35. Two years later I was told she was saving herself for her later years.
Six months later I caught her having an affair with a tall, fat, partially balding, fairly wealthy guy.
I dumped the tramp.
She cried and cried and cried... Said she'd never have another man in her life half as good as me sexually.
Two weeks later when she came out of the house to meet me when I picked up our kids, I smiled and said she looked good enough to eat... She got all tingly and aroused... I told her I don't mess with tarts - they taste nasty. She bit her lip and ran in the house crying all over again.
A few years later I met up with a lady who loved sex. Six months later she hardly wanted sex. Claimed it was from her hysterectomy. While I couldn't hurt her feelings by dumping her because of that, I certainly voiced my opinion on how worn out the batteries got on her favorate love toy when I was away.
I dumped the biatch.
...I'm seeing a trend here.
2006-11-17 15:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 49 and have not lost my sex drive one bit!! I love it more than in my 20s.
2006-11-17 20:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her and find out why she has ost interest.
In most cases it is because the man is a jerk and let himself go physically
2006-11-17 15:26:11 · answer #11 · answered by keith s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋