Will he freak out? please help meee?!?
And not want to date me anymore since I'm pregnant?
We already discussed about abortion if I ever did become pregnant. He's 21 by the way.
And so I find out that I' am....
I'm going to get the abortion regardless, but I don't know if I should tell him because I'm afraid he will freak out.
What should I do?
please help!
2006-11-17 07:18:09 · 26 answers · asked by ~*SagiTTarius*~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I don't want him to tell his friends..
AND WE ARE ONLY DATING.
but yeaa i like him alot
2006-11-17 07:22:27 · update #1
I'M 20 BY THE WAY
2006-11-17 07:23:16 · update #2
Courtney B nailed it with her answer. Tell him.
The abortion is your call, but he deserves to know if you truly have any sort of a relationship other than the sex.
And ask at the clinic about birth control options.
2006-11-17 07:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you trying to shield his feelings. it took both of you to do this, and apparently you've discussed "what if" you got pregnant. i dont' really know if he'll freak, but if you are not ready for a baby and can't use good protection than shame on you and you should not be doing things to get you in this situation. i'm disgusted at how you will end some innocent childs life because of you unmature and irresponsible ways. i think that you should tell him SOON and if he leaves you well you'll have something to grow on and won't let this type of thing happen to you again. if he doesn't you will also have something to grow on, because now you know the unmature way and can learn to follow the mature way! good luck
2006-11-17 18:51:02 · answer #2 · answered by littleyoungsupernova 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready for a bubs discuss it for sure with your boyfriend befor you get an abortion, as it is his child also, and some people dont like the idea of abortions,as even though yous have discussed it that you would get one if you fell, it can be a different story when you do, if you didnt want to fall pregnant why didnt you use contraception?as now you have to make the bigest dissision in your life and live with it.
2006-11-17 15:51:11 · answer #3 · answered by staffie lover from Aussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't continue to have a good relationship with someone you're hiding this big of a secret from. It will come out somehow eventually and he'll be hurt and may have a harder time trusting you... So just tell him. A healthy relationship is an open and honest one.... and if you don't have that, then you shouldn't be in the relationship in the first place
2006-11-17 15:20:45 · answer #4 · answered by CoCo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all let me start out by saying any man that would ask you to do something like that is not a man. second why are you doing because you want to or because you dont want to loose him. Also i have a problem with this because if non of you wanted a baby you should have taken more precaution than that and lastly what are you going to do if it happens again just have another abortion
2006-11-17 15:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by katiga n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is his child too, and at the very least he should be there to support you. This isn't as easy as most people think. I took a friend to have this done (she was 19) and she was alot more devastated than she planned. You need to have a support system in place. If he is going to freak out or run he certainly isn't worth your time!
2006-11-17 15:26:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he freaks out and doesn't want to date you anymore, then if I were you, I'd let him run!! It takes two to tango and he's just as responsible as you are.
However I would think twice about abortion...the long terms effects of an abortion could be far worse than losing a boyfriend. Please seek counseling before making any decisions.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-17 15:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by farmersdaughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you two have already discussed abortion then that means you both decided you didn't want children.....so why didn't the two of you discuss condoms or birth control?? it doesn't make any sense to me why have sex and be like oh if i get pregnant I'll just get an abortion like it's nothing...why not just not get pregnant at all?? why would he freak out and leave you?? it's not like your going to have the baby and he'll actually have to take responsibility for his actions
2006-11-17 15:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by bellababi44 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's going to find out eventually. You should tell him now. If he freaks out, give him space. I know it will be hard, but I think it will help in the long run. It's a big event. Let him soak up everything.
2006-11-17 15:23:53 · answer #9 · answered by Sarasvah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you think at 20 you are capable of looking after a baby ? you have been irresponsible and so has he. Either he should cough up some money or some support !
I don't mean to sound nasty, but your not a young kid, your old enough to deal with this, I think you are being really selfish ??? and so is he ?
2006-11-18 10:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋