And not want to date me anymore since I'm pregnant?
We already discussed about abortion if I ever did become pregnant. He's 21 by the way.
And so I find out that I' am....
I'm going to get the abortion regardless, but I don't know if I should tell him because I'm afraid he will freak out.
What should I do?
please help!
thanks
2006-11-17 07:17:24 · 11 answers · asked by ~*SagiTTarius*~ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
HE'S NOT MY BF WE ARE DATING FOR ABOUT 2 MONTHS.
2006-11-17 07:30:31 · update #1
Darling...I know this is a really tough situation. My pregnancy was also unexpected and not planned in any way. I was on the pill and took it everyday!!!
Most guys will help you through this emtionally and want to be there for you. If he does not then you do not want him anyways. Many, as in most of, my freiends have had abortions, and it is something that will be with you for a long time...but it can also affect your relationship no matter how strong it is. It will change something in you that you can never get back and that may change your own feelings for this man.
Please do note that this is your desision and your desicion only. I am 27 years old, and our first question was do we want to keep this. We live together and havebeen together for two years but still a baby was not in our plans this soon. We sat down and we really had a discussion about it. He left it in my hands...he has been through one before with his first girlfriend...so he knows how it goes. He would have been there no matter what I decided. I did decide to have this baby but for personal reasons and having nothing to do with him. We both went back and forth for about a week on it...but deep down I knew in my heart that I was keeping this little guy.
I cannot tell you what to do. Since your question is about your boyfreind...I will not lecture you on abortion and how I feel on it. That is not my place...I just want you to make this decision for yourself and not based on how he may or may not feel. If you decide to go along with it...you need to tell someone even if you dont tell him. You do need support and someone to go with you for support.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Please know no matter what people say on here...and I am sure you will get lots of answers telling you how horrible you are...this is your decision and should remain that way. What you decide is between you and yourself and your God...no one else. Good freinds will remain your freinds, and good men/boyfriends will help you any way they can!!!
2006-11-17 07:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. If you are going to have an abortion regardless then don't bother telling him. Obviously you are not in a strong enough relationship with this man if you cannot talk openly about things--good AND bad--with him. So what if he freaks out. It's not like you got pregnant by yourself!
2006-11-17 15:25:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I really don't believe in abortions, but ya'll should make a decision that is best and ya'll both agree upon. Getting an abortion is wrong in several different ways. What if your mom would of had an abortion with you? Just think about what your child could become!
2006-11-17 15:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by daimond_princess 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you already have an understanding, what's the problem. It seems like you're worried that he's not a man of his word. Why would he freak out? that fact that you think telling him might be necessary means that you should.
2006-11-17 15:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by smm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's any kind of important relationship, you have to have TRUST & HONESTY. Yes you should tell him. Not only does he deserve to know, but if he's any kind of person that would leave you over this, than he's not the kind of man you should want to be with.
Please re-think the abortion.
2006-11-17 15:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by mms1575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell him. Whether or not you choose an abortion should be something you both decide. You might be surprised at his reaction, and either way.......don't you want his support?
Good luck.
2006-11-17 15:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by soleilshewitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please tell him.If this is something you are sure you are going to do then you need his support. This is his baby too,imagine he found out a few years down the line and couldn't forgive you.You both need to know what you are doing.
2006-11-17 15:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ya think he is gonna find out one way or anouther.
Come on people...you do it...and can't talk w/one anouther.
Maybe the whole thing is a bad idea.
2006-11-17 15:20:18 · answer #8 · answered by Win 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
givve the kid to adoption but tell him first he may want to meet the kid when they're grown up
2006-11-17 15:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by i hate undies! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
go here so you can see what your going to do to your own baby. Do not be a murderer
2006-11-17 15:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋