Latley other thoughts have been running through my mind while having sex with my girlfriend. It is totally affecting my performance too. For example, i'll have something to do and that will pass through my mind. How can I just stay focused on the sex. It's hard to explain but is this normal? What should I do? I am 20.
2006-11-17 07:16:14 · 8 answers · asked by jwurm99 3 in Health ➔ Men's Health
i don't know about "normal" but i'd say that is likely quite common. i have had similar experiences of distraction or non-focus during sex but for me it's typically due to either:
a) we've been having high volumes of sex (3-8 times a day). if this is the case i just try to refrain for a day or three and things are so much better -- i'm just auto-focused and needn't even have to try at that point.
b) i am not totally into my partner, at least sexually. even though i was into them as a person/loved them/loved being with them, i was not as sexually entertained as i could have been; say being with those people who always like to do it the same way every single time. i think it was boredom in a manner of speaking and i just didn't want to admit it, so i went through the motions with a wandering mind.
don't know if either pertain to you or your situation but at least you'll know there are others who have focus-issues sometimes.
2006-11-17 07:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cant Stay Focused
2016-12-18 17:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not having focus is only good when you're trying to "hold back". Maybe you just have too much going on right now? Try to resolve some of the things running through your head to clear the way to focus on boobies.
2006-11-17 07:18:49 · answer #3 · answered by E B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at your girlfriend. Talk to her. Don't close your eyes.
2006-11-17 07:18:24 · answer #4 · answered by bgii_2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you're doing
Focus on her **** and pussy.
Think about how good your *** looks.
2006-11-17 07:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you're doing
Focus on her pussy and **** .
Think about how good your penis looks.
DOnt focus on work or before you have sex write down wat you have to do after sex.
2006-11-17 07:23:34 · answer #6 · answered by Lutria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her to get ontop of you but facing the other direction so you can see yourself going in her... you'll be able to focus on that and her azz....
or if your in the missonary... watch yourself going in and out of her
basically just focus your attention on either a part of her or yourself.
it helps
2006-11-17 07:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes going in and out just doesnt do it.. play around before make sure ur really turned on and practically begging for him to pleasure you and when he goes in moan.. even if u dont need to fake it it really helps. hold on to something have him spank u and rub your **** from the top and include some licking sucking.. dont make it all serious.. stop makeout leave it play around
2016-03-19 10:14:05 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i have sex i forget EVERYTHING but my girlfriniends lovely body! so it does sound odd to me
but that is just me.
2006-11-17 07:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋