how do you cope with the loneliness of life as a misfit or eccentric?

Answer 1

I love it actually. I don't hang out with friends at all outside of school and it's fun. I have time for myself and my studies, friends don't get too attached and stalk you, and you don't feel pressured to hang out with them. You can just relax, I wouldn't have it any other way. :)

Answer 2

not at all... if you care what other people think, you're not eccentric enough... there are millions in your predicament you can make tons of friends (and in my humble opinion, eccentric friendships are far better)... that said, just because you are eccentric, doesn't mean you can't befriend "normal" people... the conversations may not always be interesting, but everybody has something to teach you and something to offer, and you'll realize that everyone has their own unique eccentricities, some just don't care to (or aren't brave enough) to show them to the world...

THAT said, I know a ton of (misfit/eccentrics) who are misguided on the importance (or self-importance) of their eccentricities... I know people who are now regretting that they spent their entire high-school/college years "hating" average "boring" people... and in the end, what did it get them, absolutely nothing... reacting to the norm by rebelling, is just as bad as following the norm to fit in... a lot of rebellious "misfitism" is really a sort of delusion of grandeur.. if you're really more intelligent/talented/cultured/whatever than the "average" person... that is a huge HUGE gift... you can be the life of the party, you can open people to new ways of thinking, you can change your situation... you can expose the "average" people to something far less "average"... the uniqueness of your character can be a huge social draw... exploit it... love being yourself... treat yourself how you deserve to be treated and the people around you will do like-wise.

I have always thought that being born a unique person is the greatest conundrum. you have the ability to make a real difference, but at the same time, that ability comes from a strong self-inquisitive mind... your are who you are because you refuse to just "believe" something you demand better answers... this is the best kind of person there is... but if you misguide that skill/talent/whatever, it can also be extremely self-destructive. The unfed mind feeds upon itself.

that said, it is the loneliness that leads an eccentric to be productive with their talents... turn the problem on the cause. and use your restless eccentricities (that lead to this self-doubt) to overcome and defeat the loneliness that it creates...

if all else fails, you can always medicate yourself into "normality"

"a man who ain't busy living is busy dying."-bob dylan

Answer 3

Insecurity abound. Loneliness is occupied by morosity. The rest of my time is devoted to eccentricity. My spare time is so lonely because the great amount of energy I expend while I'm out being so eccentric leaves my body weak and my mind exhausted. I deal with it as a necessary part of choosing to be outside the metaphorical box and am happy that I can.

Answer 4

Having an active mind and a pleasant imagination passes the time beautifully. Still haven't figured out how to fend off people who persist in thinking that having a different take on life does not mean unhappiness. They are always trying to mould me into what they think I should be.

It's not a matter of coping with being... different... most of the time, the problem is coping with others who believe it cannot be right or you cannot be happy. Trying to explain the bliss I enjoy when they are not around is pointless!

Answer 5

Read about the sh!t that people do in the papers everyday, then you'll see where the true line between normal and abnormal is. Who are you hurting by being different?! If the answer is nobody then you should have enough self esteem to form closer relationships with people when you're ready. theres plenty of people out there, and even if they do all dress the same and follow the same social behaviours maybe you could teach em a thing or too about not being a sheep. Be a leader, not a follower

Answer 6

If you feel sad about the way you are, then maybe that sort of life isn't for you. Try and seek out others who are alike I suppose. But don't worry too much - normally misfits and eccentrics are this way because they are superior in intelligence, because the majority of people in this world are thick and too afraid to be themselves - it's difficult to suffer fools...

Answer 7

Being a complete misfit and total eccentric I can't say I have experienced this "Loneliness" phenomenon.
What colour is it?
Could my dogs have buried it in the garden?

Answer 8

Spend time with other misfits and eccentrics-those who share the same likes and dislikes.

Answer 9

Im eccentric enough not to care that I'm a misfit

Answer 10

It does screw you up a bit but better than getting screwed over by so called 'friends'. People are only on the take. I was in the pub earlier reading a magazine when someone came in and asked to use the toilet, when he came out at near me the went to the bar to buy a drink, then came over to me and asked me if i smoked i just said NO! I was only in there for about 10 minutes. They all want something.

Answer 11

I amuse myself pretty much. Being lonely is only a serious problem around the holidays when family and friends do NOT gather at your door. Also vacations and trips are weird if you have to do them alone.
By now, I am quite accustomed to going to movies, day-trips etc alone... I love my own company. I talk to myself in my head incessantly!
Loneliness is a state of mind, not a state of being.
Eccentricity is not all its cracked up to be...