Can you love someone and not be intrested in having sex with them my husband and I have a great time togther but I have NO sexual desire and I can never get into it but I rarely wanted sex before we met its never been very important to me and he runs it in the ground we do it everyday and it kinda gets old I just lay their what do I need to do?
2006-11-17 06:53:13 · 30 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
See your ob/gyn. You could have low testosterone levels or some other problem that is effecting your desire.
2006-11-17 06:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by E B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is figure out what it takes to make it enjoyable for you if you want to keep your marriage together.
#1. Most men will tell you that sex is way up at the top of their needs, and when they say sex, they don't just mean you laying there like a dead body. To us, knowing that our wives are enjoying it means as much (if not more) than what we get out of it. If it comes to it, get medical help.
#2. Love and sex are not the same thing, BUT men and women have different needs. What's your #1 need? If your husband told you that he doesn't care about meeting it, how would you feel? What if he is meeting your need but you know that he is just doing it because you need it but he would rather not do it if he didn't have to.?
2006-11-17 15:00:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 55 and still trying to figure it all out.One thing. The sex will not be fullfilling for him as long as you are reluctant to give it.Atleast that seems to be the truth for me.There is a lot more to it than just a climax.Just figured that one out.But I dont know how knowing that will help you.Maybe pretend and he"ll be happy with less.And try to figure out why you couldnt enjoy more or any. Good Luck.At least your trying.Thats a good sign.
2006-11-17 15:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Honest Injun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love without sex is the real meaning of love. sex does not equal love.
you dont have sex because you love someone. you have sex because you know it makes them happy, and you do what makes them happy because you love them.
in your case, you have sex with your husband, even though you dont really enjoy it, because you know he likes it and you love making him happy.
maybe theres a pill that will help. but i would say you are very lucky to have a relationship where you really have a great time with each other. thats what will matter in the long run anyway.
people who equate love with sex will find out later on that they have nothing left when sex is no longer their main concern.
2006-11-17 15:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that sex is more than the physical. It is the emotional and the spiritual as well.
Sex needs to be a celebration, a very intimate way of showing the depth and breadth of your love for one another.
certainly every day gets boring, I will grant you that.
I have been celibate for 15 years and I know I am missing a key element in my relationship with my wife
2006-11-17 14:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Love is long - suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails." - 1 chrinthians 13:4-8
2006-11-17 20:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by missprissy1004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably in it just for the sex. you say yall do it every day. tell him how you feel, and if that doesn't work just tell him the relationship isn't working and find someone else. it's suppose to work for both, it's not normal for you to just lay their, yall both are supposed to enjoy it. did he ever metioned about you just laying there? if he kept going then i think that's selfish. he could of stop and tried to figure out why you wasn't enjoying it. maybe he doesn't care, or he just don't know because you never complained about it. but try to work it out first and if that doesn't work then you should try to find someone else who doesn't like sex like you. but good luck with that i don't know not one man like that, but you might find a woman like that though. h e l l give her a try, you might like having sex with a woman than a man. you never tried it so you never know!
2006-11-17 15:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the good level of Love ... U are loving the personalities and attitudes which is a good sign ... and U are not interested in the sensuous pleasure of body which is also good.
Sex is not everything ... attitudes and affection plays a crucial role .. Pure love means not the sensous love ... Good you are enjoying LOVE in good quality .... keep it up and still increase the quality of Pure love
2006-11-17 15:07:45 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend is like that too, And strangely enough u 2 have the same name and age...... wierd... U werent born in December were U???
Pablo at the bottom has some good insight...Way to go Pablo!
2006-11-17 14:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
pretty darn boring. did u start out having sex with him then decided to become this way? were u this way all along? did u use sex to hook him? these are usually the things a woman will do to get the man she loves (ha, ha) then after he is hooked she pulls the if u love me routine. how does he feel about this. get some counseling
2006-11-17 14:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by keithy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋