My stepson keeps getting into trouble with the law. i have the council threating eviction of the house.because of him. He also has an ASBO against him but every time he goes to court they just keep adjurning his case. Im at my wits end nobody seems to have any ideas.or help. Is the only option is to throw him out, His mother is against this but we have a 6 year old to think about. This is causing a huge row in the household, i dont want to lose my wife and child. but if i keep the stepson will i lose the house and wife, any body help me please with some ideas.. thanks
2006-11-17 06:40:09 · 12 answers · asked by PETER B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Put your foot down he is not 18 yet.Put him to work doing something useful.He cant get into trouble with the law if he is under constant supervision.
2006-11-17 07:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by morganslilone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would get him in to counseling. There has to be a reason for his actions. And the only way to find out is by taking him to therapy. As for throwing him out, in most states. At 17 years of age you are still responsible for him, and you can actually get in to trouble your self for throwing him out on the streets. Try getting him in to a half way house. Or a program where he can be placed into a group or foster home. This will get him out of your house and keep you from getting evicted. And also give him a place to live while he is going through counseling to figure out what his problem is. And what you can do about it. The best thing is for you to go to counseling as a family, along with his one on one therapy.( PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP ON HIM) He needs you.
Good Luck
Kali
2006-11-17 07:00:05 · answer #2 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 right now and a mother of one... when i was 17 i was really bad i was doing drugs and getting in to trouble! now there was nothing wrong in my life i was happy my relationship with my family was good i wasnt acting out against anyone but myself.. maybe your step son is doing the same if so get him help or even call the cops on him and press charges you are able to put him in juvie yourself just because of the way he is acting out...sometimes i wish my parents did that for me.. but i grew up and got married and turned my life around....so get him help or just put him away!
2006-11-17 07:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by purplepeach1980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kid has a BAD attitude. He doesn't need a hug, ne needs a foot up his ***. At his age, he damn well knows what he's thinking.
I would speak with the prosecutor in your stepson's case, explain the agony at home, and beg the prosecutor to keep him in jail where he belongs. IF or after he gets out, send him directly to a therapist, and make it absolutely clear that he will NOT live in your home ever again. Your wife needs to suck it up and realize the kid is a devil...not her little angel.
2006-11-17 07:08:01 · answer #4 · answered by chiligurl254 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well im 17 yrs old and normally when a teenager does something wrong there is a reason behinde it, like if they are trying to impress somebody or get somebody's attention.. so sit down and talk to him or get his mom to talk to him let him know that he is fixing to mess everything up and if it doesnt work and he keeps getting into trouble next time he gets in trouble and you get a phone call from the jail tell them to leave him in there for a little while and see if that wakes him up a little...
2006-11-17 06:46:15 · answer #5 · answered by URKA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried giving him a hug? Taking time off to spend just the two of you...camping or something he has to use his hands/strength...sounds like an attention seeking kid, try the reverse of what you're doing now and see what happens.
2006-11-17 06:52:50 · answer #6 · answered by Craiova 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 16:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew of someone who had a situation similiar to yours. They placed their child ( a girl ) in bootcamp. It did help her. The parents have be nuetral while their child is in a place like this. It is rough, but it will benefit them in the long run. Good luck. Hope this gives you a direction to consider.
2006-11-17 07:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by samantha H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lock him in the Basement until he's 30 .
2006-11-17 07:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When it comes to problems with kids, have you ever tried turning off the TV and simply hitting them?
2006-11-17 06:49:28 · answer #10 · answered by Grant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋