My BF and I have had a fall out about something and so aren't living in the same room anymore. I know that he desires to have sex with me but then doesnt and locks himself up in his room. I know he is masturbating. I have nothing against it just that I want to know if by masturbating he is losing interest in sex with me?
2006-11-17 06:34:27 · 17 answers · asked by Jasmine B 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
no, i do it and want sex just as much
2006-11-17 06:36:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may very well be using masturbation as a substitute for sex with you. The more often he masturbates, the less horny he will feel. But, most men think that sex with another person is more fun than masturbation, so it probably will not eliminate his desire to be naked with you (or with someone).
I wonder if he is doing this to psychologically punish you. Is it possible that he knows you are paying attention, and is intentionally masturbating in a way that ensures you know he is doing it?
So, the big question: is there a future to the relationship? If you want to get back together again, just getting him back in bed is probably not enough to fix the problem. Invest the time to talk together about the root issues; you may need to get a counselor involved here. Once the root issues are addressed, the sex stuff will take care of itself.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 07:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man or woman masturbates to excess (and I think I'll define that as more than 6 times a day), he or she might not have as much sex drive as they could have if they kept it down to once or twice a day. Then again for some men and women if they masturbate a few times a week, it keeps the equipment in good working order and sort of primes the pump for the main event.
2006-11-17 10:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one he is probably thinking about having sex with you while he is doing it. And yes it does make us kind of lose our interest afterwords but we're men, we get the desire back pretty quickly.
2006-11-17 06:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by AndrewL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Masturbating frequently enhances the sex drive because the more often you do it, the more horny you get and feel the need for blood/semenic flow. It's chemical.
2006-11-17 12:24:31 · answer #5 · answered by twirly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say looses desire to have sex...but if you gets off on his hand too long.....he might like it better than penetration....I know a girl that was celibate and her boyfriend was watching movies and of course getting himself off....Well, when the time came for them to have sex.....he really couldn't get it to it for a long time....He got too used to pleasing himself..
2006-11-17 06:38:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hasn't happened to me yet.Your boyfriend is losing desire for sex with you because of other issues in your relationship, not his masturbatory habits.
2006-11-17 06:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No We Want The Real Thing.
2006-11-17 06:59:37 · answer #8 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's looking at porn he's thinking about somebody else...not you babe. That means he just had sex with like 800 chicks that aren't you. So he would rather think about them than deal with you.
2006-11-17 08:04:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way..he's just upset. Communication is the key to a good relationship, so talk the problems w/ him.
2006-11-17 06:37:28 · answer #10 · answered by claria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For an hour or so.
Ain't nothing like the real thing baby.
2006-11-17 06:53:44 · answer #11 · answered by Sun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋