i have been dating this kid for over 1 week now but i basically love someone else but with the other guy there could be nothing more than friendship for us and i can deal with that but it hurts because i really like him but there is another girl that likes him and he kinda likes her back and i am scared that they are going to start dating and i feel bad because now i feel like a whore for feeling this way so i dont no what to do please help im a girl in love with two people and dont no which one i really want
2006-11-17 06:21:40 · 5 answers · asked by jeterlover_2010 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There is nothing you should be ashamed of. Present society tries to tell us we can only be romantically attracted to one person at a time. This isn't true.
Polyamorous individuals are those who are or wish to be romantically involved with more than one person at a time. The most important aspect is that everyone involved has to know, and give their blessing to the arrangement.
If you have no problem with those you are in love with, being in love with others as well, if you think those you love could accept that, then perhaps it's something to explore.
I've been polyamorous since my mid-teens. When I got married, my wife was, and has always been able to date or sleep with anyone she wishes. I've had a few lovers whom I have fallen in love with. It doesn't diminish what I feel for my wife, anymore than our second or third child diminished what we felt for the first.
Polyamory isn't an alternative to monogamy, it's an alternative to cheating (breaking the rules). It's a way of staying ethical, but allowing yourself to be who you are.
Many people are hardwired toward monogamy and that's great for them. I and many of the people I know are not.
2006-11-17 06:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Radagast97 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! This is too crazy. You sound like you are about 12. You are NOT ready for a real relationship.
2006-11-17 06:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Momma Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A whole week? Wow!
2006-11-17 06:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty with diplomacy is the best policy....
2006-11-17 06:24:03 · answer #4 · answered by deevoonay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too confusing!!!!
2006-11-17 06:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Snowboarder91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋