I was out the other night and was approached by around 15 men who wanted to try and chat me up.
I am married, but besides that, I am happy so don’t want to be chatted up. I mean I am always very polite, never rude to people.
Now some men are ok and just apologize and move on but most try and put you down?? Why is that?
Why can’t women go out for just a good time without getting insulted because you reject men!
Not that I am bothered, I would just like some views on the subject, men and women but keep it serious please.
2006-11-17 06:20:27 · 12 answers · asked by Ms Dynamite 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
By the way, I realise that women are guilty of this too.
2006-11-17 06:25:35 · update #1
Sorry but I kind of agree with starfish, I mean after all wouldn't most decent looking girls expect to get hit on at a bar? But honestly most guys don't insult you when when they get turned down, oh maybe if they're real drunk, but it doesn't bother me, I just consider the source. No offense, but if it's really a sore spot for you, maybe you should just not go to bars, specially cause your married and all?
2006-11-17 15:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by LuvFlwr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the right answer is to this one. It's been awhile since I have went out to the bars. When I did go out I never took the rejection personally. I never had the urge to start insulting the woman because she rejected me for what ever reason. I guess the guys that do this want to make it like the woman did not really mean anything to them to save face or something with their drunken buddies. That is a best guess.
2006-11-17 06:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shiva07 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well if you were out at a club without your husband what kind of message are you sending, or maybe this happened at a church social. If you were in fact drinking and cavorting around at a club, well that explains it. What can a happily married girl expect to find in a bar other than a bunch of mostly rude drunken skirt chasers? Sounds to me like you enjoy it, so quit complaining.
No this isn't a joke, and I must have struck a tender nerve under somebody's thin skin? I did mention a "church social" but don't recall saying anything about God, Christianity or anything else about Religion? Missy, if you can't take the heat then stay out of the Yahoo frying pan. By the way, what's up with your last question, "I'm So Sexy, I Love Me" maybe you should just stay out of the bars?
2006-11-17 06:29:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
The answer from Starfish is a joke!!
Obviously a religious nut based on her own questions , its people like her that give Christians a bad name.
To the answer,,, well. You are right that some men try to make it look like they are not really bothered or just joking if you are rejected. I have to point out that women also do this as you have rightly gone on to say.
Insecurity or just to comfort a bruised ego,,,, one of those two is probably your answer.
2006-11-17 06:52:18 · answer #4 · answered by scouser 2 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Next time you should ask one of them. I am glad I'm not a man. I don't think it's easy to get up the nerve to approach someone just for that reason, there is always the risk of rejection. Should they take it better? Of course. Why don't they? I don't know, low self esteem I guess, that has just been reinforced.
2006-11-17 06:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know. Men (or women) would rather put someone down to make them feel better, or hurt you, than to accept that they may have made a mistake in who they hit on. Women do his as well, just not as often.
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2006-11-17 06:22:40 · answer #6 · answered by twowords 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Most are just jealous and have to put up a front if they are rejected.
We are not all like the idiots who do that though.
I have seen this first hand though and it is very wrong, if you get rejected then deal with it!!
Good question.
2006-11-17 06:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by CHRIS H 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Those men are immature and insecure. But you know, there are men out there that are just interested in a good conversation. Not all of us are out to "pick up" women.
2006-11-17 06:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Men assume that your out, that your open to chatting. We like to talk to attractive women. Even if your married, theres a chance we might become your friend..cuz you know you might have a single friend...or a twin sister, lol
2006-11-17 06:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by timmy43410 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Well first off a LOT of women use the "I'm married" excuse to avoid being hit on, even if they are not.
It may have just been that you were not the first one ot tell them that and they were just pissed that night.
2006-11-17 06:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋