my boyfriend whom i made pictures for (we have kids together )promised not to buy or watch porno videos still is i conceder it cheating you are still looking at someone else am i over reacting
2006-11-17 06:17:09 · 27 answers · asked by lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's ok to admire others. It's not cheating. What kind of magic does one expect when hooked up with someone that makes everyone else on the planet unattractive?
To guys, women are like cars…
Guys will get the one that they REALLY want. We admire others as they pass by. We'll even look up different models on the web or magazines. We imagine what it would be like driving others. We even sometimes miss the good times and bad of previous ones. We can even pay money to test drive others (eww). BUT…We will NEVER give up or replace the one that we have and love.
2006-11-17 06:19:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
YES you are over reacting!!! Males are visual creatures when it comes to sex and arousal. Looking at you is probably nice but sweetie he has seen it before. Wouldn't you rather him watch porn that go to a strip club or worse cheat on you. These are drive which he can not get rid of not because he is a bad guy, or untrustworthy, simply because he is male. I think a guy watching porn is a perk in a relationship because he can pick up new moves to bring home to you. It keeps sex interesting.
Relax porn is nothing close to cheating.
2006-11-17 06:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think a bit, yes, you are overreacting. There's nothing wrong with a little fantasizing.
How often does he watch them? If he's doing it all the time then he has a problem, but if he watches the occasional video, don't worry about it. Maybe he likes to fantasize a bit before sex?
Give him a break, maybe try to broaden your horizons and watch with him? You might not feel so "cheated on" if you were there to enjoy the video with him?
Good luck!
2006-11-17 06:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Just Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you have issue with porn and you and your boyfriend had an agreement for him not to partake..Though I don't consider it cheating it is definately disloyal and rude. For some people it is difficult to have their mates watch/see/seek people of the opposite sex in a sexual way, I wouldn't suggest getting over it because obviously that isnt going to work for you, I would really tell him how it makes you feel when he does it. If he doesn't value you enough to put the porn away especially after clearly knowing how it makes you feel, it may be time for you to pack up and get out. In every relationship we have to compromise and to me that seems as though it should be an easy thing to comply. I hope all goes will with everything. Good luck to you and your family.
2006-11-17 06:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Supa_Star124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do believe you are overreacting. Watching porn is almost as normal as watching animals do it. If he's not having sex with one of the girls IN the porno, then don't freak out. Maybe try to watch one with him. You may be surprised with what good things happen next...
2006-11-17 06:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, your over reacting. Why not join him when he watches it.
Do you consider watching a love story cheating??
How about reading a romance?
No, he's not cheating. He just enjoys it. Ask him to try spending more sexual times with you instead of the videos.
2006-11-17 06:23:32 · answer #6 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of Course not ! Why do you prohibit him to watch sex video ?.It is only just like watching a regular film except it is about sex. IWatching porno arouses the senses of men faster than women. Some men need it to be aroused. Why don't you watch it together with him and enjoy.
2006-11-17 06:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating - cheating is something that is done with real live people - not videos and pictures.
He probably thinks you are really hot and has to compare all the other women in porn - that makes him feel good that he has a hot wife like you. Now send me the pictures
2006-11-17 06:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are, yes. Sounds a little insecure actually. Us guys are just very visual and as long as he is satisfying your needs, I don't see a problem. If it gets to the point he wants to watch porn more than be with you, then you have a problem. Try watching with him, might get some new ideas.
2006-11-17 06:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rich B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you're overreacting because it's just not cheating unless he's more into them than you which isn't likely.
Cheating is when he's emotionally or physically involved with someone else romantically and/or sexually. Cheating is not when he's watching naked people he doesn't know have sex on tv or a computer screen.
2006-11-17 06:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋