Understanding you women is nay on impossible, why don't you make up your mind? What do you want?

Question

Hi, I was very graefull when the women on this forum helped me out at a dinner party my wife left me to be chef and because of the help I received I made a reasonable job of the cooking. I enjoyed doing the cooking so much I took over the kitchen and started to look at cookery programmes like Ramsey, Oliver and Hugh from River Cottage and have taken a lot on board (especialy from Hugh)
no crap food for us anymore not while I'm the chef.To be honest I don't wan't the wife in the kitchen anymore. My koitchen is spotless. Now all our arguments were about me not helping out enough, Suddenly the wife wants back in the kitchen, What for? How many of you would object when a suprbly cooked meal was on the table when you came in from work. All right I don't do the washing up, does any chef. She did the washing up when she was the chef, so what's changed, now were arguing because I decide what were eating , come off it, I didn't complain when she was cooking, for pity sake what does she want?

Answer 1

You lovely, lovely man! What I would not do to have you for a husband. Washing up is a doddle compared to a gourmet meal. Besides what are dishwashers for? Buy her one for Christmas and that is your problem resolved.

Answer 2

think it's 1 of those male/female power struggles that happen from time 2 time.
or she may actually b feeling threatened.
u cooking adequately 4 urself and coping, probably makes her feel vulnerable.
i think the answer mayb 2 learn 2 share the duties.
extend ur cooking 2 ironing and other mundane tasks, let her back in the kitchen. praps u can teach her a lil car maintenance allow her 2 handle the DIY. if i was her i'd b relieved and happy 4 u 2 provide all the cooking/washing up and keeping the kitchen pristine.
V happy, she obviously doesn't know when she's well off!

Answer 3

Dine out, more expensive but worth it if you can afford it.

Think how it would be.....

After a hard days work, take a shower, sit back with your feet up and relax. make your wife her favourite beverage, then decide where you will dine.

No washing up, no food shopping (hardly) and a clean kitchen that does not 'belong' to either of you.

Answer 4

I believe that like all people your wife just wants to be appreciated. Cooking in itself is fun, easy and creative. The cleanup is aggravating, boring and a part of cooking. You really aren't helping out. You are taking control. Why not take turns cooking instead. You cook, she cleans. She cooks, you clean. That's helping out. That's compromise. That would be acceptable to both of you I would think.

Answer 5

Well, maybe you are making too much mess in there. Start doing the washing up as well and she might be happier. Or, maybe you just think you are an exper chef and you're not.

Answer 6

that was her niche, and now its urs. You are the hero and get recognition, while she get dirty dishes. I suggest you guy alternate days to cook, if she is a horrible cook and you make sure you cook extra so in case of emergency you can enjoy the leftovers from the day before.

Answer 7

This is question that men will never be able to answer! Women are very confusing and completely irrational at times, but would we have it any other way??? Of course not as that's what makes it interesting and fun!

Answer 8

So all dirty work left for your wife then? i am not surprised about her complaining. Share washing up and argument will be over in no time.

Answer 9

She wants you out of HER kitchen. Go out to your garden shed, dont come in until you are called for dinner, and wipe your feet and wash your hands. Oh! and mind you dont spill that red wine on her nice new table cloth. And another thing..............

Answer 10

maybe she sees it as you trying to control something that she likes to do too. you should make up a schedule so that you both get equal time in the kitchen and you both have to help each other clean up.