We hav been together for just over a year. He moved in with me and my mother 9 months ago. He has his kids every 3 or 4 weeks for the friday nite and most of saturday and goes and stays at his mothers house when he has his kids. He says hes commited to me but gets really defensive if i try to talk to him about how i feel. I hav met his brother once and his mother twice. He has been divorced for 10 years. Please help.
2006-11-17 06:14:43 · 6 answers · asked by bel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well i was there one time but i moved on and if i see then great if i don't then what every and this was the first guy i had sex with when i was 16 and now I'm 34 and he still say you can see my kids but guess what it does not happen so i just move on the hell with it you can not make some one do something they do not wanted to do move on hes not worth if he can share hes whole world with you and just half then its not a world at all
2006-11-17 06:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I have been in a similar situation, difference being that eventually after 2 to 3 months , I did meet his kids. I am not in this relationship anymore but I can tell you if he cares about you and you are an integral part of his life (living together to me puts you in this category) than you should be important enough to meet his kids. Now, if he thinks that your relationship will not end anywhere than i think that is a good reason for him to keep you away from his kids or it can also be that he is still romantically involved with his ex? (I am speculating, she could be married but sometimes even if couples get divorced they really dont get emotionally divorced, you should know what their relationship is like, more or less). Well...good luck.
2006-11-17 06:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by jayjay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you really sure that's where he's going? He may really have another woman who get's to town on one weekend a month!!
I think I'd make him go and live with his mom, until he can open up and allows you to be apart of his WHOLE being! What's the sense of being together, if he's not making you apart of his life.
2006-11-17 06:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Secrets or things off limits can kill a relationship. We have been married 32 years and one reason for this is that we have no secrets and can talk about anything at all.
2006-11-17 06:21:55 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants909 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry too much about the meeting the kids he's maybe doing it out of respect for his kids..maybe he doesn't want them getting confused,i have a son and his father and i are not together i don't bring other guys around and he doesn't either,i would get really pissed if he did!..but you shouldn't worry too much about that
2006-11-17 06:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by liza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk it out with him and if he doesn't lisen **** him
2006-11-17 06:18:09 · answer #6 · answered by chuck_princess101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋