....I know I've tossed off some semi-serious questions, but I actually really would like some honest input on this. I'm missing some teeth (not from neglect, my teeth are actually pretty good - I was robbed and busted up pretty badly in San Jose, Costa Rica about three months ago). Four along the upper left side (starting with the one in front of the incisor and going back) were knocked out roots and all, and four others had to be capped. SO I have a partial that I take out at night. I haven't done much dating since it happened, and now that I'm looking again, I wondered how soon I should tell a woman I get involved with about it. I hate the damn thing, and how I look without it, but I couldn't afford the damn implants. I hate to pipe up on the first date and tell her some of my teeth are phony, but maybe that's the right thing to do.
2006-11-17 05:59:23 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
How old are you? If you're over 25, it's understood that you've had some wear and tear on your person, and I'm sure that any woman that you date who's over 25 is the same whether she chooses to admit it or not! It's not necessary to state chapter & verse about your physical imperfections unless they impact upon the activities you'll share during your time together (i.e.a serious heart condition & she wants to play tennis, etc.).
Hopefully, your partial denture fits well, is comfortable and you have no need remove it in public. If you're comfortable with a woman, you can bring up the subject before it comes to spending the night together. If a minor thing like this causes her to drop you, she's a shallow twit and not worth your attention. You sound like a really nice person and deserve someone who will love you for who you are & not for how many of your own teeth are in your head!
2006-11-17 08:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel that it's a huge deal. If she likes you she likes you. It's not like you walk around with them out and look like a toothless hillbilly(I can say this I'm from Alabama). Just be carful the way you tell her. Don't take them out and ask her to hold them while you try to get a seed out of your gum.... not a smooth move! Tell the story like you were some sort of hero, say how you may have lost 4 teeth but the other guy was so much worse. Just laugh it off, if your comfortable with it, the she will be too. If she's not then she's a stuck up yankee Brat(sub any other word here) and not worth your time if she can't accept you for you.
2006-11-17 06:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by auequine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buddy....its teeth....not an STD. i realize its a bit of a sore point for u but in my honest opinion it really is something that can be put off, and when u do disscuss it, speak matter-of-factly about it, not shy,or hesitant....state that thats how it is and its as much a part of ur body as anything else. Dnt be afriad, and dont make this small aspect ur whole personality, the person who will really want to be with u, will not only not care, but they wont notice either
good luck
2006-11-17 06:36:25 · answer #3 · answered by bellajns666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a woman is only looking at that then she is not worth it. You have a lot more to offer than your teeth and as long as the partial is a good fit, stop worrying about it!
2006-11-17 06:04:12 · answer #4 · answered by serendipity 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would save it for a later date but before you get in bed together. Maybe you can steer the conversation to scars or fights you''ve both been in and then tell her what happened. It probably wont be that big of a deal and if you present it in a less negative way they are less likely to think of it as gross. Presentation is everything.
2006-11-17 06:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that would be the right thing to do, but definetly not the first date. I just believe personal things like that aren't their business. The whole teeth thing shouldn't matter to someone who just like you for who you are.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 09:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by Just Dance 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would want to know about it but not on the first date. if the female genuinely like you then your teeth won't matter. there are more important things to consider. all the best i hope you find someone who really deserve you and don't worry too much about it.
2006-11-17 10:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anna Banana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's necessary on the first date...maybe the third? or when you start thinking she might be spending the night sometime soon :) good luck
2006-11-17 06:02:03 · answer #8 · answered by MaryLou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WOULDN'T SAY THAT ON THE FIRST DATE, BAD CONVERSATION STARTED . LOL but you need teeth their very important.
2006-11-17 06:03:48 · answer #9 · answered by silkieladyinthecity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and tell her what happened to you. If she is a real woman, she will understand and it shouldn't matter!
2006-11-17 06:03:54 · answer #10 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋