i have a friend girl who i believe likes me in a different way..how can i tell if she is bi?

Question

i mean whenever i talk about a man she gets defensive and say things like girl you donot need a man you need to get your stuff together as far as my own place and stuff, or if i see a nice-looking guy and comment about him she will say things like girl there you go talking about a man again, or say we are sitting at her house and she wants me to read or look at something in a book instead of her passing the book she comes and sit on the arm of the sofa where i am sitting,or like when we go apt looking she says things like yea girl we need to just do this or that..it is always we...not me..and then she loves feeling my hair when i get it done or touch a certain shirt i have on to feel the fabric,we have other girls too but it is only me she does these things too..we have known each other the longest out of everybody she is older than the rest of us..i feel uncomfortable around her sometimes but she is a good friend and i donot want to lose a friend...so what is going on with her?

Answer 1

ok, this is tricky! It sounds like either she's bi, doesn't understand what healthy friendships entail, or she's just a fantastic friend who had her heart broken.
Try flipping the switch on her. For example, next time you're out and a pretty girl walks by, say something about the pretty girl like 'wow, that girl has a fantastic figure.' see how she reacts. don't say anything about a man when saying good things about women.

Keep us posted, and good luck!

Answer 2

This is a tough one.
There are two things that come to my head right now as regards what you should do. You could either choose or do one and then the other one... or whatever.

1) You can talk to her and ask her why she's treating you differently than the other girls and that she's making you feel uncomfortable. That would be the direct way to deal with this.

2) You can start "joking" about the things she does that make you feel uncomfortable and see how she reacts. If you're in a public place and she, for example, smells you or your hair or whatever... you can say something like: "stop doing that or that gorgeous guy would think we're a couple and I won't stand a chance". Or ask her why doesn't she get a boyfriend, or ask her if she interested in somebody, try to fix a double date. Put her in the spot, make her actions more evident... let her and your friends know (indirectly) that you realize what she's doing.

Answer 3

Well since she's known you longer that it's normal for her to feel more comfortable around you. When she say "we", maybe she's suggesting that you two become roomies. Anyway, you have to get to the bottom of this because otherwise you will continue to feel uncomfortable around her and eventually she will pick up on it. I will keep looking out for other signs because it's hard to tell if a girl likes you in that way or not. Or the next time you're in the mall or looking through a magazine, point out a girl and say Oh isn't she cute..then see what her response is and see how she reacts. I would do this several times to see if she's actually interested in girls. Watch her actions closely.