im still in highschool and he is older then me. he has a good job so the two of us together can support ourselves and a baby but im just not ready. what should i do
2006-11-17 05:56:55 · 27 answers · asked by MizzKate 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Tell him that you are not ready yet, if he really loves you he can wait until you two are married or when you are ready. But I suggest that you live your life for a while say a few years; before you have a baby.
2006-11-17 06:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by Heather M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the wise one & I suspect you already have the idea of what is right. You are still in high school & I suspect he is too or should be. There it is. Both too young, with out your education you will not be able to get the jobs you will need to support a child. They are very expensive little critters. This will lead to a life time of struggle. You know your not ready. Good! Every baby born has the God given right to be wanted by both parents. If your boyfriend is pushing you to do this at your age I smell a control issue. Think long an hard, have you every noticed other control issues with him. You may care a lot for him but a life time dealing with such a thing is tough & a child will make it much worse. You need to talk to somebody, as hard as it might be to do so. If your mother is handy. She's been down this long road herself & she knows what it is about. Maybe a counselor or other girls who had a child before they were ready. They go through some tough old times. You need to get this sorted out in you mind before you commit to such a thing. Please work this out. Many yrs in front of you, good times to have babies.
2006-11-17 14:16:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready, than tell him. He should be understanding about it. Just remember though if you do plan on trying that it is a lot of work and what are your plans after high school? You going to college? Truthfully I don't know how could of a job he has. But if he is in high school to and didn't graduate from college I am guessing its not enough to take care of a baby. I suggest you wait a while because I thought I was ready to have a baby with the person I was suppose to marry. He ended up getting abusive and i had to get rid of him. I am pregnant with his child but he wants nothing to do with the child.
2006-11-17 14:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Valerie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is ready to have a baby with you then he will be ready when you are (if he loves you enough to wait and not pressure you into it). Just tell him your not ready and you have your whole life ahead of you to make something great of yourself and when you feel that you have accomplished the goals you have set fourth in life then you'll be ready. Supporting a baby only one thing that comes with having one you and him will both have to sacrifice whatever life you have and put it all into a baby.Your too young and it seems he doesn't want what is best for you if he did he would allow you to better yourself before tying you down with a lifetime of responsibility. He's had some sort of life.He should allow you one too.Good Luck :)
2006-11-17 14:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister went through the same thing you are now, she is 22 years old with three kids and no high school diploma and it didn't work out with the guy, she has a hard time finding a job and even if she could it's almost impossible for her to get day care she can afford, kids aren't only a huge emotional commitment, they're a huge financial commitment also. In the end you'll make your own decision but I hope you think of all angles before you do. Good luck.
2006-11-17 14:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by butterflyluver83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not do that , Your not just gonna screw up your life .. You will screw up that babys life too , an it's not fair to the Baby. Get through School , spend a few years having fun at a young age ,THEN settle down an have a family , an if your boyfriend does not understand that then leave him.
2006-11-17 14:02:41 · answer #6 · answered by lilredhead 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him your not ready for a child yet. Find yourself first you might get out in the world and see this isn't what you want better go to collage, travel the world, go the the club. Your still young!
2006-11-19 11:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by babygurlz94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE!!!!!!! I beg you do NOT get pregnant. NO amount of money in the world will make you emotionally or physically ready to carry and then care for a child. I'm sorry to say this too, but I think you should get rid of the boyfriend. There are only certain reasons why older men go for younger vulnerable girls, but that's for another time. But PLEASE do not get pregnant no matter what else you decide to do. Meet some boys your own age, get an education and then start THINKING about a family.
2006-11-17 14:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much older?
Think about this...what stable and mature man would ask a HS girl to get pregnant? Most likely a control freak. By the way..did you know it's against the law for him to sleep with you if you are under 18?
2006-11-17 14:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know you should not have a baby.Like you said,he has a job.You dont.That is his job,his money.Not yours.You can not support yourself or a baby.Trust me this wont work then you will be on here in 1 year crying that he left you and you want child support.It is not worth it.
2006-11-17 15:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋