My in-law are Iranian and last year they invited five or six other families to join us for Thanksgiving. We, the children, felt very left out on a day we thought should be about family. They are doing it again this year, despite how we felt about last year. We don't want to go to another "Iranian party" for Thanksgiving. Is there a solution to keep everyone happy?
2006-11-17 05:47:59 · 13 answers · asked by IKEA freak 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
Thanks so much for the replys. It has opend my eyes a lot and I feel totally different about Thanksgiving now.
2006-11-17 06:52:11 · update #1
My daughter asked me the same question yesterday. She wanted us to "move" Thanksgiving from Thursday to either the day before or after to accommodate her schedule. My reply was that after years of moving about and kow-towing to her Mother that this year dinner was Thanksgiving Day for family and friends at 6PM.
She almost had a stroke that we would invite FRIENDS. She informed me that this was a time for FAMILY. Yes, it is. Several of my closest friends are not blood relatives, but are family in every sense of the word. We share our lives as closely, if not close than we do with my kids.
No, there is no real solution. Your MIL has every right to have whomever she wants in her home. That you are invited shows you are loved and wanted there. You have a choice to make, a matter of conscience.
Learn some Farsi and go. You might have a great time.
2006-11-17 06:08:52 · answer #1 · answered by Frogface53 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are hoping for is an American Thanksgiving. How to go about getting it is another question. How are you at cooking? Can you do the cooking and have the family over to your house? If you can you can change the in-laws holiday. Invite just the family for dinner. If your in-laws want a party with their friends they can have it after dinner when they go home. Someone does need to explain to them that their children want this holiday to be about family. However, if you are going to your in-laws home for the holiday than they can invite whomever they want to dinner. It is their home and their tradition.
2006-11-17 06:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be happy with anyone coming over for Thanksgiving. I love Iranian parties- they have such fun. Thanksgiving is for loved ones-- family or friends. I wish I had more... no on even replied to my invitation.
2006-11-17 05:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My only suggestion is if you aren't happy with it there to do it at your home and let them know they are welcome to come (before or after they do their thing).
To answer the other part of your question, for me my true friends are like family, and some of my family are my closest friends. I personally would love to share as many special moments with my true family not just my bloodline, some of my friends have been there for me more than my own blood. In truth though, it is what you are comfortable with, what makes you happy. If you aren't happy you aren't enjoying your holidays, and that's not right.
Good Luck
Happy Holidays! and Have a GREAT day!
2006-11-17 05:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can visit during the early part of the day and help with making all the preparations, then find a good excuse to leave as the first guests begin arriving.
2006-11-17 05:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i might pass out. I additionally think of ToryL advise of serving is great. you ought to ask some new acquaintances on your homestead for dinner as nicely. i understand down south the Shoney's serves a Thanksgiving buffet.
2016-10-22 06:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by titman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's for both. Last year I went to a neighbors house and this year we have friends coming over for T-day at my house. Don't go if you don't want to. It is their house and they should do what makes THEM happy.
2006-11-17 06:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enemies. Invite them over. They say stay close to your friends but keep your enemies closer.
2006-11-17 06:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by robert m 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its for family and friends. Like everyone else is saying close friends are family. If you have close friends its sounds like your in-laws would welcome them. The more the merrier.
2006-11-17 08:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some friends are family.
Thansgiving is about giving, it's one day...just go
2006-11-17 05:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by Willow 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋