do we actually own ourselves or do our parents??

Question

after all they created us we didnt create ourselves.

Answer 1

I am thinking that you are not a parent. If you were, you'd know the feelings of love and responsibility and sacrifice parents feel. Regardless of what the law or any religion says, the "givers" are the parents. And they give and continue to give unconditionally. In my mind, that takes away any ownership privileges. Parents give it all. Good parents, at least, do not own their children.

Answer 2

Hello:
I thought about how I was going to answer this question and I think I'll start with this. First, when a parent gives birth to a child then that parent is responsible for us. Whatever our needs are (etc). Next, even though our parents are responsible for what we may do if we are still a minor under 18 that is how it works where I live we are our own person. We have the right to say no to something if it doesn't make us feel comfortable. Just because someone is a child doesn't mean that they do not have a voice. They have a right to speak what ever is on there mind as well as an adult does. If a child is taught basic values to be respectful, kind, givving of ones self (etc) then why can't they have a say in what happens in there lives?
Sorry it took so much space to answer your question. I hope this helps...

Answer 3

possession is some kind of illusion.

but if you construct a world with individuals with means to control the will of others, then it seems like some individuals 'own' others. You have to assume that individuals of this sort 'own' themselves, that no outside forces or individuals have influence on them. Which is basically never the case. But on a relative scale some people do follow commands at a high level. The boss owning lesser employees, the husband owns the wife and household, the emperor owns the state. The only way to possess is to also control the tools of submission-- you need not just laws, but the punitive measures that coerce us to believe those laws are not veiled threats. While no individual can possess all the complex procedures of torture, he may utilize them, or simply be capable of using them under conditions where the law breaks down. A child that receives no discipline fails to understand the power of our linguistic coercions; it is a promise of pain should the individual fail to satisfy the demands of the owner. Such an owner who cannot or does not exercise punishment doesn't possess anyone.

To give the owner the choice of initiating punishment is often enough, but challenges persist as long as any rule can be transgressed. And the rebellion of the slave demands: what right do you have to possess us? WE will determine the rule now! Preventing that conflict is the whole point of the careful non-arbitrary placement of law in society. When so much of it is abhorrent, repressive, dehumanizing, and challenged, a state of war is the only means to a re-possession-- pure domination in which you must be prepared to destroy the very thing you want to own.

It's a tit-for-tat charade, nobody owns anyone-- laws are all questionable, we generally have been punished enough and face enough exposure to real violence that prevention of conflict works. And where there is great injustice, compromise is at hand-- no one willing to sacrifice themselves in the complicity of compromise. Give the slave ownership! He will then be slave to our law once again!

Answer 4

Eastern Philosophy (Confuscianism):

To even ask the question is a sin to both yourself and your parents.

Instead of ownership, you should be asking yourself how you can enter into this relationship that you have with your parents that is never going to stop.......

But you must always have Hsiao (repspect for your elders)

Western Philosophy:

Existentialism (my fav, Sartre's view)

Every being is one unto itself. What defines you is the choices you make, and the consequences that you action has had on those around you. To predicate your existence as being owned by another, is asinine. The Other is a being that exists, and that cannot be refuted. But, the Other (your parents) is just that, an Other. And not you. You cannot justify your thoughts or actions based on the Other because this takes away from the Self and causes you to act in "bad faith".

Neitzsche:

No one can be a creator.

Answer 5

Parents do have rights (at least in the eyes of the court of law) were we are concerned when we are younger than 18 and parental teachings, bad or good, impact our lives. However, once your at the age of 18 you become where you choose what that relationship and past memories does to your life and even at much younger ages you can choose to disagree with your parents point of view. I don't agree that parents "own" us. They did create us but as we didn't have a choice in whether we wanted to be created or not then we certainly don't owe them our lives and dreams nor do we necessarily owe them love and respect. While a parent shouldn't bring a child in this world if they are not going to love it and put its needs first, a child has no obligation to give a parent what they feel they deserve from it especially when it is detrimental to the child.

Answer 6

We own ourselves, When we are young, we are ?nieve? We do not understand the world. Our parents are there to guide us. Though it may seem as though they own us, they do not. How long it takes for a child to become an adult depends on the individual. But society has been pushing the age of maturity steadily backwards, and now its not until 18-21 year of age. Our parents protect us, to guide us and are our keepers until we are ready to go in the world on our own.

Answer 7

Right now I think that my parents own me though I am 23 and have a job but I live with my parents and it is rather hard. But in fact some people love to be owned, they need it. When they decide to own themselves they just do it.

Answer 8

i believe they actually own you---but because you are a person and have been given a free will, even as they, you have a responsability to yourself as well, and so they own you but not completely. You are an individual---yes, they brought you to life, but what you owe them for that is honor and love. You should honor and respect them, you always take into consideration what their thoughts and opinions are; but u make a decision that's well balanced out---taking also into consideration what you know is best for you and them in the long-run.

Answer 9

Well your parents I guess "Own" you until you are able to take care of yourself and have learned enough from them to be on your own. I don't care if 18 is when your legally an adult, most children these days don't actually grow up until there much older :/

Answer 10

Actually we, the Hindus. believe that we owe everything to our parents and because of that we do whatever our parents wants us to do. It is out of respect that we follow what they say throughout our life.