I used to work with a guy who I became really good friends with. He was single, lived alone. I was married and going through a hard time with my husband. I confided in him with things that I probably shouldn't have, and maybe gave him the wrong impression. I discovered later that he wanted more than a friendship with me, so I slowly stopped talking to him. I cared about him as a friend, but because I was married, the relationship could never go any further than friends. Because I was well aware that he wanted more, I thought that breaking it off all together was the best thing to do.
It's been about 6 months since I last spoke to him. He used to work around the corner from me, and I would see him driving. Lately I haven't seen him, and he no longer lives at the same address. I still have his cell #, but I don't know if I should call him. I'm worried and I need to know if he is ok, but I am afraid of starting another "friendship" with him. Any suggestions?
2006-11-17 04:43:56 · 15 answers · asked by Kailey 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you should let go. Best for all concerned. No need to bring up old feelings and confusions. You both have lives to live and it seems best they need to be lived without each other's friendship.
2006-11-17 04:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by matters 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you still like him as a friend, then I would call him and tell him that you're making sure he's okay. Make sure that he understands that you do care about him, but only as far as a friend. If he didn't know you were married, I'd tell him. If he did know, then he should have already known that it wouldn't go farther than that. But, if he truly was a friend, then you should probably let him know that.
2006-11-17 13:50:57 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. If you're married, stop pursuing friendships with other men. It's not appropriate. If you still have doubts, tell your husband the whole story and ask him if you should call this other man. You don't "need" to know if he's ok.
2006-11-17 12:48:57 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For six months u dont speak, n now u go to show that u care where he got lost. I know u like him, but ur marriage is stoppin u, but u wanna remain loyal, so why are u putting urself in the way of a misfired bullet.
2006-11-17 12:49:39 · answer #4 · answered by vio_prince 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just walk away Hun. I know you feel guilty about hurting him. But just move on (good on you for not cheating) Also learn, don't mix business with pleasure. Take care x
2006-11-17 12:49:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Delete the phone number.
He is fine.
There is no reason to call as it just might lead him on and he get the wrong idea
2006-11-17 12:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm am sure he is fine and has found himself a GF......U should be more concerned about making your marriage work and not find ways to break it.
2006-11-17 12:49:28 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, don't call him. when he calls you, you need to make it clear as you are to us. last thing you want is to give him another false impression.
2006-11-17 13:33:59 · answer #8 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't call him....He is fine. It's been six months. Let him move on.
If he stills has feelings for you, you will confuse him. Let it and him go.
2006-11-17 12:49:30 · answer #9 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont lead him on. I think you shouldnt call him at all if you care about him.
2006-11-17 12:47:58 · answer #10 · answered by what tha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋