i really dont seem to get on with my midwife,she is always very quick at appointments and doesnt seem to have any answers for any questions i may have!!!
imm due to have another home birth which means shes my named midwife and should deliver the baby but i dont feel comfortable with her. i thought about changing midwife but shes the named midwife at my surgery so no luck there. i have always had a great relationship with my others any ideas how i can change this situation before the baby comes in march??
im in the uk if that makes any difference
2006-11-17 04:41:30 · 6 answers · asked by mum_2_many 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you have to talk to her and let her know what you are feeling, she has no idea if you do not let her know.
Doula can be a great help too, if you find one that you feel good about then she will be there with you and will make you more comfortable. http://www.doula.org.uk/
Good Luck
2006-11-17 04:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by Me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel. If you're not honest with her then she won't know there's a problem and you'll never get a resolution. Just tell her that you think she's rushing at your appointments and that you want some time set aside for her to answer your questions. If she can't abide by that then I would suggest looking for some other midwife's or going to the hospital.
2006-11-17 12:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you ask for another midwife...or do they assign you one. I dont know how your health system works, but here we get to choose our doctors. There is a nurse at my doctors office who is aboslutely horrible. When she took my blood she literally made me cry my eyes out it hurt so bad. I got done with her...walked straight back to my doctor who was standing in the hall...and said never again is she allowed to touch me. I have given blood so many times in my life...and she has no bed side manner at all. I have never been in so much pain from giving blood...and never had such an impersonal nurse. She will not touch me again and will not ever touch my baby.
The doctor apoligized and said he would speak to the nurse. I understand that she may or may not like her job, or may have been busy but what she needs to understand is that she decided to be a nurse, and with that comes the duties of a nurse...part of that is Bedside manner!!!! Midwives are the same...they should cater to you!!! What you want should be!!!
I am not sure what you can do in the UK. But I know that I will not see or have anyone that I am happy with!!!!
2006-11-17 12:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look in to transferring to someone you feel more comfortable. But before doing this I would reccomend letting your midwife know how you are feeling. She may try harder to give you more time for questions.
2006-11-17 12:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Becky R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't know about laws in UK, in the United States, we can change for any reason under the sun- even if we don't like their face!
This situation is bringing you stress...which is definately NOT good for your pregnancy.
Sorry, I wish I could be of more help.
2006-11-17 13:00:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you can persuade someone to change her.
2006-11-17 12:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋