Help please.........what do I do??

Question

Hi. My best friend has dated some pretty horrible guys. I don't think they treat her right. I don't like her boyfriend right now (we'll call him Alex). They are together one minute and not the next, their like a light switch (on and off, on and off). Should I say anything to her about how I don't agree with her love life? I mean, she is always telling me that I like and have liked the wrong guys. What should I do??

Answer 1

I think that you should tell your friend And tell her that she needs to do better and help her find someone that will treat her right.

Answer 2

the problem with a person in a relationship is they are often totally blind to the deficiencies in the other. Even if they are being used or abused, they do not want to hear it. Thus there is nothing you can really do except be there when they wake up and realize they were having a nightmare instead of a walk in the clouds. Yes you can try to say somethign but if they do not want to hear, they are goign to tune you ot and if you persit thay are goign to want to end the friendship. Far better to simply leave it alone and help them when they need it later.

Of course once a relationship dissolves, it is fair game to discuss it with them and try to get them to identify the bad things - it might help them learn what not to accept in fuiture.

Answer 3

a good friend tells her friend what she thinks. but .. in the long run it is her decision to make and you must accept what ever one she makes. if at the end you are right, then be a friend again and be there for her. just remember "i told you so" is not what she'll need to hear. just listen and when time passes and she is better, then try to discuss the guy subject and maybe you can both help one another. good luck

Answer 4

Since your friend feels free to express her opinions about the guys you like and since you think this "Alex" is wrong for her, then I think you should express that to her. Give her some examples if you can.

Answer 5

just have a heart to heart and don't judge. just let her know that you wouldn't be a very good friend if you stayed silent. whenever i date someone new, my friends opinions are very important to me because my crew knows me better than i know myself. my friends are the most accepting bunch around so i know if they have concerns, then they are legitimate concerns. maybe your friend has some self esteem issues. how's her relationship with her father? maybe she needs to work on being the best she can be first before jumping into relationships. take care and good luck!

Answer 6

of course u should tell her what u think. Since she is always telling u that gives u the right to have a say in what hapopens with her...besides...if u think that its not a healthy relationship, then you'd be doing her a favor...

Answer 7

My approach would be this: wait for her to ask your opinion on her current man, and then be honest. If she initiates the discussion as opposed to you, she'll be more receptive to what you have to say. And when you do talk, give specific examples as to what you don't like, so she won't feel judged.

Answer 8

Tell her that her on/off drama with Alex is bringing you down and you can't take hearing about it anymore.

Answer 9

if i were you, i'd let her know that I do not like the guy but that would be as far as I go. She has to learn this lesson on her own. She'll probably keep doing this to herself until she figures it out.

Answer 10

Tell her that you're worried about her and the kind of guys she dates. Explain to her what's bothering you about these guys and what you think she should do about it. Remember to be honest and explain how you're feeling about it.