Why do people take there significant others for granted?

Answer 1

People tend to get comfortable in the relationship, and assume the other person has gotten just as comfortable so they wont go anywhere. The person that is taking the other for granted looks at it as this, they did the wooing to get the other person and now they dont have to try anymore. unfortantely thats not the case, its kinda easy to get someone the hard part is to hold on them. do everything you can to make that other person feel as tho they are the most important person in the whole world and prove it every day.

Answer 2

I believe that the reason people take their significant others for granted is that we develop a comfort zone. The more comfortable we become with each other, the more we realize that they will not leave us despite our flaws. For example, you may not get dressed up every time you see the boyfriend/girlfriend, because you know that they love you anyways. This is nice at first, but undoubtedly, after awhile, this ideaology will transfer to everyday things such as not taking out the garbage, forgetting the little things like flowers that brought you together in the first place, etc.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Hi there,
Your question seems to be the "in-thing now...
I find that a lot of people need a parent rather than a significant other.
It appears that they want commitment without being committed.
I think that they consider good sex is love, how shallow.

I don't think that they weigh the consequences of their actions until it is too, late....
Matters of the heart, food and money are nothing to play with....

Perhaps when they find themselves dumped and the next peson treats them like discarded rags, they'll truly appreciate the Love they blew...

Answer 4

I don't think that they realize what they are doing when they do this. We don't appreciate something till it's gone. We're all guilty of doing this from time to time. Maybe we need a reminder. We can't take anything for granted. Could be gone in a flash.

Answer 5

Because the person is so self centered why they take others for granted and when the other person decides to leave and sick of the treatment then the other self centered person can either swallow their PRIDE and finally grow up. Or either that they think they are to good to low them selves over that person they just lost.

Answer 6

Because when you have been in a relationship with someone after a certain amout of years you tend to think they will always be there so you begin to take them for granted then when they are gone you miss them and wish you hadn't treated them so badly, but you are to enjoy people while they are on this earth because life is too short to treat people badly.

Answer 7

Because the significant other allows it to happen. If you loosen the riegns on the horse, the horse will run. You must keep a tight hold. It's what this world has come to. If you allow them to put themselves in a situation where they can be volnerable, not everyone is strong enough to say NO, I'm married or No I'm in a relationship with someone I truely love. We, society, love ourselves more than we love our neighbors. Our self satisfaction in knowing we can have passion with a new person makes us weak hearted people, say yes.

I'm going through a simular situation. 13 years married two years ago i found out about her affair, tried to forgive her to keep the family together, but she did it again this year and I filled for divorce. During my investigation I found about another affair back in 2000. Being separated for more than 6 months, I screwed up and found someone that is really remarkable. It's beautiful to see her with her children and how she takes care of thier every need, making them feel like the most important thing in the world. Her beauty flowed outward from the inside. When I looked in her eyes, it seemed like I could see forever! She did me the same way. The sex was unbelievable. But here's where I screwed up... I let her know how deep my passion went for her. Turns out, she's the kind of woman who wants what she can not have 100% completely. She would rather date a married man. Because she don't want to fall in love. So she wants to just be friends now, with me. Not even friends with benifits.

I guess I'm just an emotional person. Me? I've always been a one woman man. I personally feel better about myself when I let my significant other know how I feel, because it makes me feel better about myself when I know that she cares about me as deeply as I care about her. Usually by letting the significant other know how you truely feel, they will in turn let you know. Everyone is scared of being hurt emotionally, yet we long for the feeling of BLISS we get from being in love.

Unfortunately, it has been my personal experience that, when I let her know I love her more than she loves me, she takes advantage of me. People are Devilish by nature. Some more than others.

Society has made it acceptable. The tabloids tell it all. She's leaving him for some other guy, he's dumping her for some other woman. In the state of Maryland, it's a $10.00 fine if you are found guilty of Adultry. What happened to the Scarlett Letter? I mean, if we (society) can joke about the President of the United States getting his socks blown by an intern, and not demand justice for his wife. We are the problem!

I have to believe that True love does exist...but every relationship keeps proving me wrong. Maybe one day, that woman who feels the same, will fall out of the sky. Until then... I'm taking care of myself as best I can, physically with exercise, and mentally with my spirituallity.

Answer 8

I think it happens because you are use to them being there. You know that when you come home they will be there. Its a comfort zone. Theres nothing wrong with dependable. But everyone is guilty of doing this. Mostly I think the one that do it are the ones that are more centered on themselves than their spouse.

Answer 9

Because it's too easy to fall into the comfortable ole shoe mode.

Answer 10

We fall into the funk of 'ok, I'm settled.' This is why people let themselves go, and don't do what they once did. You get so used to this other person being there you don't think they mind. They do.