We have been married since June 3, 2006. I am always asking for sex and he is never interested. I take care of myself and my body is in good shape. It is really offensive and i always cry about it.
2006-11-17 04:09:19 · 29 answers · asked by Courtney T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We did have plenty of sex before we were married. I have checked his phone and everything and he is not cheating. He works all day and comes home right after. I have tried everything-lingerie, seducing him, etc.
2006-11-17 04:24:00 · update #1
what?? you are a newlywed!!! you would think your doing it all the time!
ask him about it.. have a serious talk with him and just tell him how you feel and find out what his problem is.
good luck
p.s I just read your previous questions and they all seem related with problems with your husband. he sounds like a real jerk that doesn't care about you. and shitting on the couch, how gross and immature is that.. you say your in your 20's.. i would leave the bastard and find sombody else.. he doesn't care about you.. leave him. you are too good for him.
2006-11-17 04:11:48 · answer #1 · answered by green eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your problem.
Sometimes, though I hate to say it, the chase is more rewarding than the prize. Perhaps your husband liked the chase, but now that he has won the prize it isn't so sweet. It could be that it is hard for him to perform... lotsa guys are in this boat including me. No, it isn't the "Viagra" problem, but more about stress at work and home and constant demands placed to excel or do things... anything from taking out the garbage to cutting the lawn.
One thing you might want to do is to ask him what the problem is... don't be nasty or demeaning. If he yells at you or says that nothing is wrong, then call his doctor and explain the problem. He may be able to give you more insight.
One other thing it could be, and I hope not, is that he has started another "chase". This is what my (ex) wife did... 4 times... until I finally had enough.
2006-11-17 12:18:34 · answer #2 · answered by miragegworks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, don't let him see that it bothers you. Then think about the approach. If the two of you enter into the bedroom in the same old routine then spice it up a little. Try something new. Maybe new pj's or soft music. One thing I have learned is that a television belongs in the family room, not the bedroom. Too many times a television can really ruin an intimate relationship. If you have one in there, get it out.
Good luck.
2006-11-17 12:14:25 · answer #3 · answered by Kimberly C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing I know exactly how you feel. Three months after I got married he started ignoring me when it came to sex needless to say we are now getting a divorce but thats becuase he became physicaly abusive and cheated on me. My advice to you is to check the computer and things like that but dont let him know you are checking just to make sure he is staying faithful. If he is staying faithful there isnt much I can tell you to get him interested cause my guess is that you've already tried putting on sexy nighty and he still turns you down if you havent tried that then maybe you should. Good Luck
2006-11-17 12:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by SunShineBabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure there are many possible reasons for thishere are a few:
1) He is regretting the loss of his freedom, having second thoughts.
2) He has a medical problem that is slowing his libido..or preventing him from getting an erection.
3) He has some anxiety in terms of work or just life.
4) He is gay.
Whatever the reason you two need to see a marriage councillor..If he refuses to go withg you go alone.
Best of luck to you..I hope things work out for you.
2006-11-17 16:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just got married and are already having problems like this? Oh honey, there must have been signs that this marriage wasn't going to go as you hoped BEFORE you got married but you chose to ignore them. Theres nothing you can do if you are staying sexually appealing... it's an issue he is having. He may not be able to perform, is stressed over being married, his job, or he could be cheating. If this continues it's best to seek counseling or move on, it could be a sign of things to come.
2006-11-17 12:14:37 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to him about it? Maybe there is a medical reason. He could have phsyical problems that he doesn't want to admit. Of course, I know you have considered the possibility of another woman, but that doesn't usually stop a guy from having sex with both woman. If you had been married for a long time I would say that it's not that unnatural to go through dry spells, but you are still newlyweds. You might need to go to counseling.
2006-11-17 12:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by justcurious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are weird - just about as weird as women. He may have a seriously low sex drive. It happens to some of the best of us. Do the best that you can, but chances are he will never change and you will have to live with it or move on. Counseling will help but then he will not think that he needs it. I had a friend that got married and when she tried snuggling up to him on the couch he jumped up and said - what, are you queer or something? He got his own barcalounger and they never had that problem again. But then she never snuggled with him again, either.
2006-11-17 12:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong, but with such little information, it's hard to say what it might be. Did you have a lot of sex before marriage, then it suddenly stopped? Any other big changes in you life? I suspect he is fulfilling his needs somehow and if it isn't with you, then how? You need to find out what is really going on with this guy, then decide if this marriage was a mistake.
2006-11-17 12:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by seattlego 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For recently married couples sex is supposed to be an everyday activity.
The following might be the reason why your hubby is not engaging you in one of the greatest and enjoyable activity on earth:
- he is gay;
- he has erectile dysfunction;
- he has very short penis;
- he's too tired or exhausted because of work and work related problems;
- he's too old;
- he's has been sexually abused during young age.
I want to help you. Just contact me.
2006-11-17 12:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by louie0894 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking to him without getting emotional? Do you know what turns him on?
I find that some guys like to be the one to engage it. Ignore him. Focus on you. If this doesn't work, Before bed, Walk around in something skimpy but not obviously sexy. Like a tank with no bra and boy shorts (those cute little short-like panties). This way he thinks your just getting ready for bed, but the goods are on display. Worked for me!
2006-11-17 12:14:47 · answer #11 · answered by kristidove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋