My husband always defends his mother actions and try to make her right all the time and I was wrong even if it is the opposite!!!!!!!!
2006-11-17 04:04:40 · 18 answers · asked by Yahoo User 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
to me you can't but you all need to talk it out and maybe you all can
2006-11-17 04:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by tyree_dickerson 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the financial support I think the best idea is to move out and get your own home started. If your husband doesn't agree with that, then tell him your leaving to your parents house until the mother in law gets her act together, whether she is depressed or whatever. There is no reason to inflict pain on others. Second, tell your husband exactly how you explained it right here. And if he still chooses his mother side over your story, then honey there is something wrong here. Your husband is putting his mother ahead of you, which isn't the worst thing, but in this case, it is. If she doesn't change and he doesn't listen, I think you know which way the door is.
2016-05-21 22:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel for you. Been there. Make your stand with him over her now. And if he Keeps taking her side. I hate to say it but end it.Don't waste your life and happiness on someone who doesn't respect you has his wife. The hardest thing I ever had to do was confront my husband about his mother and tell him me or her.All I know was him. He was my first love we have been together since I was 17. But I couldn't deal with it anymore. I put up with my Monster In Law for 9 years before I snapped. And I must admit although I love my Husband It did to some extent alter some of my feeling for him. Just be cool when you talk to him screaming won't do anything for you. He will shut you out if you do that. And don't go confronting her directly either or he will use it has an excuse to defend her.You know poor little mommy of mine always getting pick on by my big bad wife and all that or at least that is what she will convince him is happening.
2006-11-17 07:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband may not really agree with his mother, he may simply not know how to stand up to her now that he's an adult, not a child who must obey his parents. Or he may be a real momma's boy. Either way, I think it's going to take marriage counseling to solve the problem.
2006-11-17 04:12:55 · answer #4 · answered by thirty3d 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how long you have been married, but honey, I put up with that crap for 23 yrs. His mother was always right and I was always wrong. How did it stop? He died. When that happen I didnt have to take her crap any more. I did it only to keep the peace. Needless to say that is bad way for it to come to a stop but he wouldnt stand up to his mother either. Say something to him cause its no way to live.
2006-11-17 04:28:25 · answer #5 · answered by firefly06 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You just hope and pray that he'll see the light.
Boys and their mothers...it's a hard thing to divide. Although quite necessary when they get married. You just have to speak with him, and he's going to have to understand that you are his family now, and you come first. If you have a problem with his mom, he should take it up with her, and vice versa. He is the moderator here, and if he doesn't like it, tough. :)
Good luck.
2006-11-17 09:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by the_proms 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where your coming from, my husbands mother lives with me and she treats me like s---t my husbands excuse is that she old, i don't care this is my house . I've come to the conclusion he will always defend his momma over me, so i get even when it happens i refuse him in every way humanly possible, not sex,no dinner, no anything, then i say get your momma to do it since your such a Mommy's boy you coward. it may be childish but i get satisfaction.
2006-11-17 04:16:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him who he is married to! I can sense the hurt and rage in your question; I agree with you that siding with his mother and not supporting you, his wife, is unacceptable. This is not a test of love; it's a test of power. As families grow and change, the power relationships within family units change too. Good luck in solving this mess!
2006-11-17 04:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by zoomjet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that when he starts getting from his mom what he is getting from you then you will consider his arguments. Until then you are the woman of your house and he is free to go home to mommy and come back when he has cut the apron strings.
2006-11-17 04:09:22 · answer #9 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either get him far away from her, like moving across country, or get used to this for as long as his mother is alive.
2006-11-17 04:10:01 · answer #10 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Mommy always comes before YOU all the time, I'd tell him to go move back home to Mommy...a marriage is for TWO...NOT THREE.
2006-11-17 04:07:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋