I freakin HATE anal sex with a passion! I have tried tons of lube.. I mean tons.. and a toy... and numbing cream... I just can't help but feeling like I am taking a massive dump the entire time... it weirds me out soooo much! But my boyfriend is CRAZY for it! What can I do???
2006-11-17 03:28:30 · 17 answers · asked by Jaded 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Practice
2006-11-17 03:34:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
lube is inportant. work the area with fingers to get it all loosened up. Go slow. The dump feel you get over after you give it a few tries. It takes practice to figure out what you like the best.
2006-11-19 23:09:25 · answer #2 · answered by Britney R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't do anything you don't want to do. I haven't tried anal sex yet but i absolutely love the feeling of something in my bum. I have a dildo i use all the time. It doesn't hurt cos i'm in control so i more relaxed. I can't emphasize that enough. First time i used it i was worried and i pushed it in a bit fast and damn it hurt. But if you can learn to believe you'll enjoy it then you will, you'll relax more and whether its a dildo, finger or penis, it'll slide in much easier. The other key is lube of course. My dildo isn't massive but i still have to grease it up first. Learn to enjoy it tho, it's the most intense feeling of being 'filled up'. But if it's not for you then he should respect that!
2006-11-17 05:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Alicia D 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm gay, pass for straight, and absolutely hate it up the butt too and I've tried it all: Booze, poppers, numbing cream, a gallon of KY--it just hurts like hell. I hate it.
However, I *insist* that, any guy I am with, give up the cha-cha! LOL. Seriously, I tell them all in advance, this is what I'm looking for...bend over, rover.
That being said, your boyfriend needs to get over it. You've tried and tried, you hate it, that's the end of it. If that isn't satisfactory, try getting a new boyfriend. Or send him to my place, I'll teach him how CRAZY anal sex can be!
Good luck. :)
2006-11-21 03:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by TurboLover 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I watched "Talk sex with Sue Johannsen" and there was a lady who called in with the same problem. sue said that you should first just use a lot of KY the regular jelly stuff and have him play a bit first to loosen your muscles. You should have lots of foreplay first. She said to first play with just putting the tip in slowly and bringing it back out and to slowly ease it in and that you should push like having a BM against it while he only goes in a little at a time and is very gentle with you. And to take it real slow the first little bit and that you need to communicate with him and tell him what you can handle at the time. Try to relax as much as possible, and try to enjoy it. And if you still don't like it then you need to tell him you don't enjoy it and tell him you refuse to do it. My best friend says you aren't going to like it the first few times until you can get used to it.
2006-11-17 08:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by momofthreemiracles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he has to be super gentle and super super slow while putting it in. You have to push against his trusts and relax relax relax. It should feel good. If he pushes forward and it hurts tell him to do it even slower. Pain is a bad sign. Depending on what type of condom you use I prefer Vaseline I think it works better than KY and all that. Or try some Vaseline sensitive skin lotion just a little on the outside to keep it from getting raw while he is doing his thing. I absolutely Love anal you will too once you figure out what you need!!
2006-11-17 03:39:03 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I hear that massive foreplay loosens up the anal cavity which makes anal sex more enjoyable. Lube does not do much..its still the same size.
2006-11-17 03:36:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
well, first go to the restroom 20 minutes before. consider an enema too. use lots of lube. if he is big, get used to the feelings by using an*l sex toys.
i would also talk to him and ask him to submit to the strap on.
2006-11-19 10:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by mariecaroline43215 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife loves and demands anal a minimum of twice a month, and we've been doing it for about 20 years. Here are two very informative sites.
http://www.very-koi.net/anal.htm
http://www.analsexyes.com/
Have fun!
2006-11-18 00:55:03 · answer #9 · answered by Scabius Fretful 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put a strap-on on and tell him it's HIS turn.
Try to relax. Have him massage the outside of it when he's going down on you - helps it relax. Maybe a little finger to loosen it up.
But seriously, if you don't like it, you don't like it.
2006-11-17 03:36:34 · answer #10 · answered by CoronaGirl 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋