How can I stop my jealousy ruining my marraige?

Question

I dont trust my husband, he has said somethings to wind me up in the past but he said they have just been words but swears he has never cheated.

Answer 1

Nothing can ruin a relationship or marriage faster than jealously. Jealousy creates anxiety, anger, loneliness, hate, fear. No one thinks clearly when jealous. Jealousy will often change to the non valiant abuse.
Having a relationship with a jealous person is tough. The jealous person acts untrusting or unworthy. Jealousy makes the person unattractive, even repulsive.
No one wants a jealous mate and no one likes being jealous. So what causes jealousy?
Jealousy comes about because of the insecurity of the jealous person and the jealousy may or may not have foundation. This person is afraid of hidden communication lines and will do anything to try to uncover them. You should get counseling to improve your feeling. You seem to cafing person so go get help you need.

Answer 2

You both seems like babies, and really not ready for marriage. You both appear unable to communicate well without upsetting the other. I'd suggest you both get into a few sessions of counseling to learn how to negotiate your differences.... If you are jealous, it is a sign if insecurity. If he is kidding you about cheating, he is a baby.... one does not kid about betrayal.... betrayal is the deal buster in a marriage. So, hon, you both need to grow up and get some help. Will be the best $$ you ever spent if either of you hope to be happily married -- either to each other or to anyone else..... You asked...

Answer 3

Keep this thought in your mind. You can't control his behavior or the behavior of others. If it is truly in his heart to betray you then he will do it no matter where he is. Stop driving yourself crazy with the "what might happen" thinking. Also, if you keep acting like he is doing something when he hasn't then he will have no incentive for remaining faithful. You are going to lead him right to where you most fear. Resolve yourself to deal with issues as they are NOW and as they happen. Trust is vital for a successful relationship.

Answer 4

I went through a phase of not trusting my husband (he was being very secretive, even called out some woman's name in his sleep and pleaded ignorance next morning). I thought long and hard and told myself that if he's determined to cheat there's nothing I can do about it? If you don't have any actual proof I woudn't worry. However if I ever had the funds readily available, I would hire a private investigator to follow him.

Answer 5

If he have not given you a physical or any other reason not to believe him then try but he shouldn't say false things just to piss you off because those can still be words that hurt you or make you be alert about things.

Answer 6

In a marraige you have to learn to trust one another, this takes time and faith in each other. Good luck x

Answer 7

do the same, lifes too short to be miserable, flirt but don cheat, show him youve got that thing, remeber to dress up sexy every time make him jealous.... eg dress up reall nice and sy you going out shopping on an odd day x

Answer 8

,I know how you feel i found the best thing to do is ,tell your self that if something is going to happen it will.if he is telling you the truth then by letting him know you miss trust him he may play on it best of luck sue.

Answer 9

if he hasn't done anything honey then you need to learn to trust him, a good relationship is based on trust. talk to him tell him your fears, he should re-assure you, good luck

Answer 10

I don't try to stop mine anymore, I just try to control it a little bit more.