I am 23 and was just married in May my husband is 32. We have been together for five years. We both think that we are ready to conceive this is our third month trying the problem is it seems like he never wants to have sex with me! Dont get me wrong we both have put weight on and I feel like that is proberly part of the problem but we are still both good looking people. When we do have sex (maby 3 times a month) it is good. When I asked him why he does not seem to want to have sex he says he is tired or that he does not feel good about his body ( I dont see anything wrong with it) I know you are proberly thinking HE HAS TO BE CHEATING but I really dont see how he could I know where he is all the time and out side the bedroom he goes out of his way to please me so what is really going on? He is always talking about he wants a child well does he not know what it takes to make one! I should be at ovulation on saturday and we did have sex on Monday so I have one in a million shot !
2006-11-17 03:13:14 · 10 answers · asked by annastacia_02 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Wow alot going on there. Tell him that hes perfect in your eyes, which he should be anyway. And explain to him that you really want a baby and that he would make an awesome father. Maybe he'll start thinking and go for it. Maybe he is really tired. Plan a min vacation on a weekend and just relax and have lots of sex!!! Sounds fun to me!!! Good luck. Also try mixing it up alittle. Try toys and roleplaying. Make it fun.
2006-11-17 03:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I totally know what you mean. I am 26 and my husband is 36. We are TTC right now and we both know that we have to have sex in order to conceive but we are just so tired that we say, "oh, a quickie in the morning", but then the morning comes and sleep wins again! We are both at fault though and we know it. We have been TTC for over a year and it sometimes just feels like a chore. I find the best time to initiate sex is right when we get home from work. Just walk in the door and go for it! No need for, "How was your day?" Try it Friday night. Good luck! I know what you are going through.
2006-11-17 04:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all signs are telling you he is faithful and honest with you, maybe he really is just tired. Some nights my boyfriend and I come home and can't wait to get to bed, and other nights one of us will be in the mood and the other will be dead tired. But if you are having trouble with him EVER being in the mood, I might change your tactic.
Are you going to extensive lengths to PUT him in the mood? I've generally found that I can convince a tired bf to have sex if I initiate it myself and let him lay down and relax while I get him turned on, and then if I need to I just jump on top of him and start doing the work. I usually find that I don't have to do all the work for long once I get him going. If you've tried everything and can't seem to figure it out, you might try going to a sex therapist who can talk to both of you and maybe dig out a problem that neither of you were aware of. Good luck!
2006-11-17 04:56:28 · answer #3 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with a few other answers.....my husband is 31 and he is very sexual and is always interested in having sex. I think every man is different. My husband and I were married this past June and since he has gained about 20 pounds and he doesn't feel that great about himself either right now but that isn't stopping him from wanting sex. I'd say to sit him down and just have an open conversation with him about how your feeling. Communication is key in any marriage. Good Luck.
2006-11-17 10:40:00 · answer #4 · answered by morekidsforme33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. My husband and I only have sex a couple of times a month, but we also have 4 kids. We are both tired, just at different times. But I have learned that if I want it and he says he's too tired, I simply do things that will entice him. You know what your husband likes, whether it's dressing up in a nighty or as a school girl, whatever....do it. Or if he's laying in bed and still awake, start without him. I don't know any man that wouldn't "find" the energy. Good Luck
2006-11-17 03:31:02 · answer #5 · answered by henryswrecker_fr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men in their 30s experience a drop in testosterone, and because of that, they get tired quicker, their sex drive drops, and they start putting on weight. My advice would be to try harder: I don't know of any man who would turn down oral, especially if you don't ask first. While you're doing it, slide off your underwear, then mount up on him. He'll appreciate the initiative.
2006-11-17 03:22:10 · answer #6 · answered by togashiyokuni2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what to say? Don't judge and you won't be judged... But as for one comment regarding the oral sex, have you ever heard that with saliva after oral even if he finishes inside of you sperm will die. Saliva isn't friendly with sprerm. So, please, don't try that stuff. At least with the purpose to conceive. Yes, in other cases it works.
2006-11-17 07:28:50 · answer #7 · answered by Natasha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its jus ur mistake.good looking wife is not everything for the husband....wat he want is satisfaction from sex. dont always concentrate on penetration !!
jus go all over,first of all let him erect it upto the maximum n have it.
so u got a tuff task ahead 2 work on his penis.all starts with a lick !!
ejaculation can be done on the 2nd day also....on the first day concentrate on jus having SEX.sex n sex only.forget abt age !
2006-11-17 03:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by srk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at 32 most men are usually past their "peak" meaning they dont want it as much as they use to but if you have been trying for 3 months and nothing both of you should go to doctor and get checked
2006-11-17 03:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by lita 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's just harder than you think. Don't give up. Stop stressing. Good luck!
2006-11-17 03:36:58 · answer #10 · answered by meshock76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋