part 3 of my survey. Your answers are appreciate!
a) honesty and trust
b) sexual desire
c) financial security
d) other
2006-11-17 03:07:01 · 12 answers · asked by spottedtan5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a) honesty and trust.
you cant have a committed relationship without trust
2006-11-17 03:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anointed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there is more than one answer. The first is most definately A!!! If you are not honest with eachother then you really don't know eachother. If there is no trust, then the honesty really doesn't make much of a difference. The second answer is D...You need to be able to have fun with eachother. My husband and I have so much fun together, and we are the happiest couple I know. Also, keep eachother on your toes. If you get into the pattern of the daily grind you may lose touch with eachother and why you fell in love. You can also throw B in there, but it is not completely important. While it is great to be attracted to eachother, I don't think it is absolutely important to be happily married.
2006-11-17 11:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kerri E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for me it would have to be loyalty: the honesty and trust part.
but the only way to achieve that successfully is to have the other things down pat too...
if the financial security situation isn't sorted, I think there's a quote out there tht says this is one thing that makes women move on the most in relationships... and if the sexual desire part isn't alright then fine the relationship might not necessarily die 'cos you can still be great friends but I would feel like our marriage was lame in that situation, and I mean the original meaning of lame; broken leg lame, not 'crap' lame ...
the 'other' thing that i'd value in a relationship would be progress. i wouldn't want us to stagnate and just be the same. I'd want what we had to grow i.e. have kids, have them be decent human beings first and then successful people in their own right. i'd like to be able to give them choices and not have to dictate routes to success like has been done to me in my life!
i'd like us to be satisfied with very little and be level headed if we had more. You can only have that if money isn't an issue because if you're poor it's hard to be satisfied and still worry about how you'll pay bills and whether you'll have to offload stuff once you reach the counter ASDA 'cos your kids secretly put extra stuff in the trolley while you weren't looking...
yeah so i guess my answer's 'all of them' but Loyalty first.
then i'd pretty much be happy :-)
2006-11-17 11:25:38 · answer #3 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust & Respect are vital to a succesful relationship. Love binds it together. If you don't trust your mate or respect your mate it can be the motivation for doing things that will hurt him/her. Even in the secular world if an employee doesn't repect his/her superior he/she can still perform the duties of his/her position. However, when there isn't any respect for the boss or his position then there is a feeling of no consequences for actions and corruption seeps in.
It is more so in a personal relationship. If you don't truly trust your mate and treat him/her accordingly then their really isn't any basis to remain so.
Financial Security is a gimme.
2006-11-17 12:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important quality are Equality and Balance.
If any of the qualities gets out of balance or one of the partners doesn't feel like an equal partner then the "successful marriage" is at risk of not being successful any more.
2006-11-17 12:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION!!! Everything else will fall into place following good communication. You have to be able to talk about good & bad with your significiant other & be honest to gain trust. Then the both of you can communicate your likes & dislikes between the sheets. Financial security?....money does not buy happiness. My significant other & I are broke as hell...living check to check. Yeah it would be nice to go on a shopping spree for the kids & us too. But, it is all expendable...my family is not.
2006-11-17 11:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tonya lvs Metallica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To truly have a successful marriage you have to have both
A and B.
You could live in a shack and barely enough to live on but if you have the first two you will be happy and work together to make your life better.
2006-11-17 11:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and trust.....if you do not have these you will never have a successful marriage.
2006-11-17 11:23:08 · answer #8 · answered by bifgrl31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty and trust for sure!
2006-11-17 11:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by Shem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honesty and trust
2006-11-17 11:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by soramnraa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋