How do I win over my girlfriends father?

Question

He treats me suspiciously, I want to earn his trust

Answer 1

The simple answer here is to put yourself in his shoes. He has spent a good portion of his life raising this young woman with tons of hopes and dreams for her future. He has (hopefully) taken care of her and supported her through her toughest times. Now you come strolling into their lives.......how would you feel?

He remembers what it was to be your age so you first have to ask yourself what your true intentions are. If you just want to get laid then forget about what the father thinks because he will smell a rat anyway. But if this is potentially a relationship in the making and you really care about this woman then do the right thing. Treat her well, keep her happy and be VERY respectful of her father because your are treading on his territory. Eventually if he feels you're a good guy and you're going to be there for his daughter he will come to respect your relationship with her. Will he ever love you? That is really not important, your not in a relationship with him. But you do need to earn his respect and that my friend will take time and effort.....good luck! Now go do the right thing.

Answer 2

This one is scary. If he's the over-protective type, then there is no such thing as winning him over. But if he's like most fathers, he just wants what's best for his daughter, and he wants to keep her safe. So what you need to do is treat both him and your girlfriend with respect, and be a gentleman while you're around him. Regardless how wild and crazy you and your girlfriend might get while you're alone, you need to be a 'good boy' in front of her father, and also speak with confidence and act intelligent. He's acting suspicious towards you because he's trying to 'feel you out'

Answer 3

By creating an opportunity for him to get to know you well like inviting the family to a dinner.

During dinner, focus not only on her father but to other members as well. Enjoin them in a conversation and ask sincere questions like what are they interested in and go from there.

And maybe as a backgrounder, you can ask your girlfriend prior to that about her family and their interest.

Example: If his father is into sports, ask him what sports he particularly like.

The goal here is to find a common ground not only with him but with the rest of her family.

It would also be a plus if before you ask their daughter for a date, you would ask their permission, let them know where you're going and what time you will bring her home. It may sound too corny or too old school but it means that you respect them and their daughter and do have sincere intentions.

Answer 4

always greet him with a firm handshake, make eye contact that shows that you have nothing to hide, and that you are a respectful person. Always treat the girl the same way, open doors, walk by her side, don't be too touchy feely, always be polite and considerate. Use your manners, yes sir' no sir'.. I'm sure he will come around. my ex was immediately disliked by my father and he took my advice and after a while they were like great friends. Show her dad that you are there for her and not a piece of booty because that's his little girl and he only wants the best for her so show him that you are.

Answer 5

If I was you, I would just treat her right, not only infront of her father, but all the time. My father hates my boyfriend b/c he is an asshole. Be good to her. That's what a father wants. Also, if you're planning on being serious with the girl, you need to show that you can take care of her. Maybe having a one on one talk with him would help too. I would be open.

Answer 6

well it depends on what you want to do with his daughter,what your intentions are.. I am a father and I don't want a guy to come into her life sleep with her get her pregnat and leave her. You should take the time and have a conversation with him if you really like this girl and are going to be with her for awhile them tell him that.if you don't say anything then he will treat you like the guy that wears black lipstick and drives the old van with the bed it the back. Good luck, hope it works out for you.

Answer 7

Does she still live with him? How old are you?

If she does and you are both young (high school), then it will take time. Father's are always protective of their little girls. Have her home on time. Always come in the house when you pick her up.

If that doesn't work, win over her mom! If mom likes you, it won't matter what dad thinks anyway!

Answer 8

Hang out with him while you're with your girlfriend. Don't just take off so you two can be alone. Do regular stuff like watch TV with him, eat dinner with them if you're invited, or invite him out 2 eat at a casual place when you go. Make sure you don't let him catch you grabbing her. Even if you don't need it, ask his input/permission/advice for things like a special dinner date or special activity with your girlfriend. Make sure you treat her like a princess! Besides wanting to protect his little girl, he may feel like you're replacing him in her life, so you need to show that he will still be a part of her life.

Answer 9

1. Don't try & be someone your not.
2. If he ask you ?'s don't stall to answer them.
3. Don't lie, parents have a way of knowing when you are.
4. It's not about winning him over, it's about his daugther, he just wants to make sure you are trust wothy. Your actions will tell him all he needs to know.

Answer 10

Treat his little girl with respect and make sure you treat everyone in his family with the respect you would want to be given yourself.

All Dad's want the best for their little girl and if he see's that you have only her best interest at heart, that you respect her and are not using her, you will win him over.