We are going to stay with my in laws over Thanksgiving and one of the uncles will be there as well. He is a chain smoker. I would not make a big issue out of it but I have a 9 month old baby that I do not want to expose to the smoke even for just 2 days. My husband says that he does not want to ask him to go outside out of respect for the mans age. He says that his uncle has had a hard life and served in Vietnam and we should just deal with it out of respect for his age and position. I disagree but I also do not want to piss anyone off either. What do you all think?
2006-11-17 02:41:06 · 18 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Hotel isn't an option. We are staying in a little cabin in the mountains.
2006-11-17 02:56:07 · update #1
Your husband is right...you can keep the baby out of the area the smoker is, and don't make a big thing of it. Two days isn't going to kill anyone. I understand your worry about the baby, but a man who's done what he has deserves some respect!
2006-11-17 02:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by Baby'sMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age most people would not allow you to smoke in their house out of respect for others and besides it stinks up the place. Personally I would not subject an infant to a smoking environment. I would ask the uncle to step outside or I would get my own cabin.
2006-11-17 11:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a delicate subject. I smoked for years, and if somebody asked me nicely not to smoke around a baby, I would go outside without question. If your husband doesn't have the cahunas to stand up for his family and ask his uncle, make him get you a room (and tell the hotel you need a crib when you make the reservation).
This kind of behavior is a remnant of the older generation. It isn't the least bit out of line to ask someone to go outside. The family used to smoke when we visitied, but when babies came into the picture they went outside. If you do get uncle smoky to go out on the porch, go out there with him and chat while he is smoking. You might get some good war stories.
2006-11-17 10:57:05 · answer #3 · answered by James B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
had this same problem in the past when my kids where little, the big problem is that it is THEIR house, what you could do is try and keep the baby in as smoke free par of the house as is possible and INSIST that he does not pick up the baby whilst smoking.............also you can say that there is a direct link with smoking around kids and future ear problems.....was baby in anyway poorly when it was born...hopefully not BUT this would work in your favour now by saying that the docs words of caution where....baby must be kept in as smoke free environment as possible..................MOST people are aware of the dangers and usually will try to help............my nan was a chain smoker and she tried to [a] not smoke around the kids [b] was NEVER allowed to smoke whilst holding baby..............
as for anything else I know [really I do] just how important this is for you BUT if this is the only thing and otherwise they are great people just try to suck it up as best you can................IF the uncle is the ONLY one that smokes why dont the owners of the house ask him to step out side for each time he wants to smoke ??? I smoke but not in my house nor does anyone else...............
Good luck
2006-11-17 10:53:59 · answer #4 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let that poor baby be exposed to smoke. If anything, try talking to your in laws about the dilemma. If they are rational, they will understand, and ask him to smoke outside for the sake of the baby. If none of this works, every time he lights one up, excuse yourself, and take the baby to a completely different place in the house.
Good luck!
2006-11-17 10:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by cutegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats tough but your child health is very important and smoke is very acceptable to a young infant. Maybe someone else in the family might say something what about the grandparents are the concerned maybe they havent thought about it maybe they should be aware of it. When my son was little he kept getting bronchitis and the doctor said to keep him totally away from anyone in the family who smokes. Sorry it seems you will piss off someone. Good luck
2006-11-17 10:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by Happi @ss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should talk with him and ask him if he would go outside for a smoke. Explain that it's not only for the baby but, respect for all the others who will be there and don't want to be around such a dangerous habit.
2006-11-17 10:56:42 · answer #7 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe talk to your in laws about it. It is their grandchild that will be breathing that cancer smoke maybe they will agree with you. If not then maybe your hubby should go with out you. Just because the uncle has had a tough life doesn't mean he has to ruin the life of other people in the process!
2006-11-17 10:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it is only two days then stay at the house the babys lungs will not be affected. then when you get home the the baby will still be in good health. hope you have a good holiday I know I will be with a drumstick in one hand an a cigerette in the other.
2006-11-17 10:50:08 · answer #9 · answered by Charles U F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened in my home. Husband smokes no one else does. I have asked him to go outside to smoke. And he does. Just ask your uncles to go outside and smoke because second hand smoke is very dangerous for babies and for everybody.
2006-11-17 10:55:21 · answer #10 · answered by Lynn M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋