Advices needed....?

Question

Hello,
I really need some help concerning this girl. Over time she became a close friend and I started having felings for her. A few months ago, i sent her an email, trying to start a conversation. I got rejected. I tried moving on but she keeps on getting close to me. She frequently spends time at my place (she just spent a week with me). I thought i could work on it. Today i learned that she told a lot of our common friends about the email at the time. I dont know what to do anymore. Every time i see her she spends half the time on the phone, talking to other guys about meetin gup and things. Please help me get out of this situation!! How could I bring up the topic with her? (A month ago i asked her not to see me again without giving any reason, and hoping she would ask....she just ignored me for a week before going back to normal).
I hope some people will pay attention to this post.Thx a bunch.

Thx for all the advices. Helps me see things more clearly. I tried putting some distance between us. But she keeps on coming back. And whenever i see her with some other "friend" i can see she realises it makes me mad. And now i definitely think she digs that. Some of my friends tell me to hold on there. To wait until the right time comes. Is that really a good advice? All i know is that i need to clarify things with her face to face. i just dont know how to bring it up since she obviously doesnt feel like talking about it. Why all the baby game?

Answer 1

She is using you, your her 'back up plan' if something else falls through, or the guy she likes doesn't like her, or she just doesn't have anything else going on in her life at that time. What she is doing to you is WRONG! You don't deserve it, next time she shows up at the door, tell her "I'm sorry 'Jane' but I have plans / a date tonight and just don't have the time to get together right now. Keep this up, stay busy with YOUR own life, plans, friends and you will get '2 for 1' she can't take advantage of what isn't available, it will give you the time and space to get over her and move on, and she can't hurt you over and over with 'mixed messages' which is really just bs, not respecting you (even though she is fully aware that you have feelings for her, think, what kind of person does that make her? Best of luck and best of times to come for you!!

Answer 2

A girl can honestly have guy friends who she may not think of as "Boyfriend " material. She is flattered that you are interested in her but sounds like she is playing hard to get & trying to make you jealous by talking to other guys on the phone in your presence. You need to turn the tables on her...start ignoring her and talk about other girls you think are fine, hot, or whatever. It will be hard for you to do, but if you can do this for about 4 days to a week...you will find out how she really feels about you. Friend or Boyfriend!

Answer 3

She's just not that into you. She doesn't share your feelings. She likes dating lots of other guys and you're just her friend. She doesn't sound like a very nice person if she's ignoring you, talking about your private emails, on the phone to other guys. Just keep yourself too busy to be around her.

Answer 4

she has self esteem issues. or separation anxiety. sometimes a person needs to be with a certin person to make them feel good about them. she must know u like her, and that could be helping her self esteem. but u really need to talk to her about this. she could be playing u also. and it sounds like she is using you. plz for ur sake, sent some ground rules with her. b4 either of you get hurt.

Answer 5

Quit inviting her over. Sorry she doesn't want to take it to the next level, but don't keep hurting yourself hoping she'll change her mind.

Answer 6

You have not reserve a place in her heart.