am i wrong for wanting my girl to have an abortion because of rape?

Question

my girl loblg posted a question telling that she was pregnant by rape by another man. and i read it, and most people said i was wrong for not supporting her in keeping the baby. but how would you feel if you or your girl got pregnant by another man and the thought that he took something that was mines! i don't want nor do i feel comfortable taking care of a baby thats not mines. don't tell me i'm wrong because you would probaly feel the same way if it happened to you.

Answer 1

ken i don;t think i am going to follow this. i disagree with you. sorry. and you should be supprtive and understanding of me.

Answer 2

i dont think you are wrong for wanting that. That is your girl and shes having another guys baby yeah id be pissed. Although why would your girlfreind want to keep the baby. If i was raped and fell pregnant i think the first thing i would do is get an abortion. Having a rape baby would bring up many problems between you both especially if you are not comfortable with the baby and the baby would sense that. Also she has to think about the baby. Whats she gonna tell it when it older "oh sorry but you were a rape baby". Haveing a baby is suppose to happen with to people that love each other not through rape. Like i said i dont know how your girlfriend could even consider keeping the baby after the ordealmof being raped. Did she know or have any connection with the rapist that could be a reason for wanting the baby.

Answer 3

So you ask a quesiton if you are wrong or right. Then at the end you put; "Don't tell me I'm wrong because you would probaly feel the same way if it happened to you." Okay, so what is the question?

I think it's a personal choice that should be made between you and your girlfriend. This is something you cannot decided because "ilovemonkies" on the internet say so.

Answer 4

I know this situation must not be an easy one for you, but need to support any decision she makes. She is the mother of this baby, no matter who the father is. She has her reasons for keeping this child, and if you "don't feel comfortable" with her decision, then you need to make a decision of your own: Are you willing to lose your girlfriend, or will you step up and take care of her and her baby during a very difficult time for both of you. If she was raped, you need to focus more on comforting her, instead of forcing her into a decision that she will later regret for the rest of her life.

Answer 5

Maybe you should talk to her about adoption I can understand her not wanting an abortion but I know that it will be hard for you to relive this every day you see that baby. There are a lot of women in this world that can't have kids and would be greatful to adopt one. You both should see a counseler. Talk this out good luck. But I do agree with you keeping the baby would be hard on both of you. Adoption is the answer. Hope all works out.

Answer 6

I can certainly understand how you feel about the situation, but when you love someone, you support them. This baby is not about rape, it is about a baby that IS the child of your girlfriend, too, that your gf is not willing to destroy just because of how it came about.

I think it's time you sat down and really thought about how you feel. If you cannot handle caring for this child as your own, then you need to get out of its life. Like I said, I can understand your reaction, but your next reaction should be that of supporting your girlfriend. If you don't love her enough to do that, then let her find someone who does.

Answer 7

Its as much as her and her non secular ideals. I only wish she has a reliable head to make the call. i'm 26 and if i became into raped i does not get an abortion only reason i think of its the incorrect thank you to choose for any lady. a toddler is a blessing no count number the way it occurred. Its unhappy maximum females human beings go with to forget approximately approximately that.

Answer 8

Yes, you are wrong for wanting her to abort the child. The child is totally innocent in this situation and hasn't done anything to deserve death. Do you honestly think the child is less worthy to live than the rest of us? Killing the child is NOT going to change the fact that your girlfriend was raped. You are going to have to deal with that regardless, and murdering an innocent person is not going to help the situation. If you encourage your girlfriend to kill the baby, you are worse than the rapist. At least the rapist left your girlfriend alive.

Do you think what you want or are comfortable with is more important than someone else's LIFE? This is abortion:

http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Do you honestly want it on your conscience? Be a man and show a little compassion for a baby who can't defend himself.

Answer 9

First of all why would a woman want to have a raise a baby from a man that raped her? Thats something you want to forget about not have for the rest of your lfe. I can understand why you would want to take care of that baby!

Answer 10

On the first place , she is not ur wife so shes not yours...and 2nd she is not forcing you to answer the baby coz she understands u, 3rd its your turn to understand her, . . if u dnt like what happen, do u think she likes it too?? of course not,, this is a test if u really love her, if ur true ...u will take a risk, u will not leave her specially now in her darkest moments....its nobody's fault..not even the childs..

NOBODY will help u and will decide for u...if u'll leave her it only comes to show that u dnt love her that much...

Answer 11

Don't have an abortion put it up for adoption,but talk to her fist about how you feel. NO ABORTION! Plus she makes the decision not you if you don't like her answer leave or be a man and support her decision