My 13 yo daughter is lovely, respectful, get good grades, a sweetheart and a bit crazy. She gave in to peer pressure and went to a mall with some friends in the car of a 19 yo boy we havent heard of. She knew she couldnt do that, but..I got to know cause she called me and asked me to get her at the mall. She told the truth, apologized, said she acted without thinking and promised not to do that again, But as a mom I have to correct her, which is hard after her sincere sorry mom, didnt mean to hurt you. But for a week she'll do some chores in the kitchen, thing she hates. She'll exchange swimming and hanging out with friends for a sweet kitchen pinafore, lol, 2hours a day. Of course I heard that Oh mom, please, but I just said, sorry hun, I love ya, youre a wonderful girl but needs a lesson. Thats how its gonna be. I wont forbid email, TV, etc, just want to give her a motherly lesson. She agreed she needed a lesson and isn't resentful, though a bit embarrassed with her sweet pinafore
2006-11-17 01:50:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anabela 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Whatever works for your children, use it. You are lucky to have a daughter that respectful. My 15 year old would have snuck out the window, and went back to the mall...lol.
2006-11-17 02:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing. Just letting her get off with a slap on the wrist is like saying; "Go ahead, do it again, I don't care what you do or with whom." Being a mother, you want to teach your children right from wrong, and if that means having to do a little work for a punishment, good. Now a days, kids get it way too easy and the parents do way too much for the kids, and let them get away with way too much. Good job!
2006-11-17 10:10:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
At 13 I was a hellraiser. If my mom told me I had to stay home for a week and clean the kitchen I wouldnt come home after school and make up some excuse that I had to stay late or missed the bus and had to walk.
But thats cool she she accepts your authority and listens to you.
2006-11-17 13:08:41 · answer #3 · answered by .:AMIZZLE:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she was very forthcoming...and it was a good thing she called you to come get her! She is gonna experience more peer pressure..and since you are giving her a "lesson" she may not want to tell you next time cuz she wont wanna do the chores. I think it was great for her to call you..but will she next time cuz of the punishments(even tho its not harsh, its hard for a 13 yo to stop talking to her friends to clean the kitchen) I think that a talking to and a reasrance would have been better. Tell her next time she can come to you any time...even though you may not agree with the situation. (Cuz she is only 13 AND there will be more time..trust me...im 23) And trust me..my parents are excellent parents!
2006-11-17 13:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin S 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
It sounds reasonable, since she knew she was wrong and admitted it, AND (the most important part) fixed it by calling you to help her. I suppose it seems like a lot since she was sorry and had probably learned her lesson on the way to the mall with a crazy teenage boy driving. (I would have freaked out)
2006-11-17 12:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by habemf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So here's her quandary.... She made a mistake, like every one else in the world does during their life time. She's mature enough to own up and tell you what she did... and you punish her for it.
So next time she makes a mistake like that, what does she do? Tell you and be punished further or keep quiet....
I would have thanked her for her honesty, talked through with her how she could have handled it differently and left it there. To punish her for being mature and honest enough to admit her mistake could well lead to resentment and problems in the future.
2006-11-20 07:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by glawster2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is a sweet girl. You are correct to act like her mother and not her friend, and punish the situation. I am so not looking forward to my kids becoming teens! They are 9, 7 and 5. Someone should've told me when the first two were babies that they grow up and things get tough! lol!
2006-11-18 13:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by misskenjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your daughter is a very respectful and you are very lucky to have such a well behaved child. We all make mistakes, and she knew she had made one, which shows good judgement, and she didn't let the boy take her home, which shows great judgement. I think your daughter obviously knew she was doing something wrong, and did deserve a lecture and a good talkin to, but to actually punish her when she knew and admitted she was wrong? All this is teaching her is to lie next time so she won't get into trouble. If she has already punished herself, why must you also punish her? You should be proud she came to you and loves you that much.
2006-11-17 10:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by memememe!! 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I think that was great that you gave her a punishment. If she gets away with just "I'm sorry," then she'll do it again. But,,,,, now you have to watch out because she may try and be sneaky. She won't want to get caught for fear of being punished. So now you need to keep an eye on her very closely. But hopefull she learned her lesson and she'll stay clean!
2006-11-17 11:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by angelica 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That's a great lesson. You have a very respectful and wonderful daughter. Cherish every moment you have with her ok. Keep her on the right path, because girls like that are indeed hard to find!
Give yourself a pat on the back. Job well done.
2006-11-17 10:06:49 · answer #10 · answered by ludacrusher 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋