She's cheated on me tried to kill me turned my family agianst me just made my life misserable 23 years of marriage we've been sepparated for thirteen months now and miss her .
2006-11-17 01:36:20 · 25 answers · asked by israel g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because you are co-dependent and have based you entire identity on her.
Being in a relationship for 23 years will have an impact on your life - BIG TIME!! With that much drama going on, I'm sure you lost sight of who you were because you were so focused on trying to make her happy. That isn't a bad thing, it is normal. You need to try to refocus on you!! Take a vacation, go shopping, buy yourself a new toy.....do something that you would never have done while you were with her. It doesn't sound like she had any respect for you as a man. LIving with that for 23 years will make you lose respect for yourself. Work on regaining that self respect. You deserve it! Everyone deserves to be treated respectfully!
I don't think you really miss her! I think you miss having someone there - someone is better than no one. Don't allow yourself to settle for an abusive, disfunctional relationship because you are lonely. It will take time to move on! You have to change the way you think, and the way you feel about yourself.
If you don't already, you should get a membership to a gym and start working out regularly. You will feel better, look better, and you may even meet someone! I wish you luck! It is hard to go through this, but you will get there!
2006-11-17 02:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You aren't thinking with a clear head right now. Actually it's not Her that I think you miss. It's the idea of being alone that is actually bothering you. And since you 2 were married 23 years it is natural to think that if she came back it would fill that empty void in your life. She's not worth thinking about. Go out meet other people. BTW If she can actually turn your family agaist you then she's a B*T*H and your family is a bunch of suckers! Man that's messed up she turned them against you? Blood it supposed to be thick man. Familly is supposed to be there for family. Good Luck!
2006-11-17 10:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know why you miss her so much but you deserve better then abuse. No woman OR man needs to be abused. You get out of the house and go meet some nice lady who can treat you like a king for the rest of your life. It is your turn to be loved this time and know what? I bet when you find this woman you will love her even more then you loved your Ex and her abuse
2006-11-17 09:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by The_answer_person 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're a glutton for punishment. I guess after 23 yrs it's hard to live without her but you can do so much better. Start dating again and see that there are good women out there who will treat you right. Don't punish yourself anymore!
2006-11-17 09:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you get professional help. Your self esteem is really low. People that put up with this situation in a relationship have no self esteem. I would not last even one day! with someone like this!!!!! get help and start going out with friends and travel. let this woman alone and ask for a divorce as soon as possible. Good Luck dear!!!!!
2006-11-17 09:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by marque1717 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
23 years doesn't mean much to her - she's been trying to get rid of you all this time. Move on and get out....you need to take some time and find out what a healthy relationship is - you have been in a volatile one for 23 years +. Get a clear head.
2006-11-17 09:46:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can totally understand how you feel, however, it's not love you just want to be with someone. It's not worth torturing yourself because you don't want to be alone. I suggest going into councelling in order to get your feelings out there and it will also help you to understand why you feel the way you feel and help you understand how to get into a healthy relationship. The one you had with your wife is not healthy. Good luck.
2006-11-17 09:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love your wife because she was probably the only relationship that lasted for a while. She was probably the first woman u married. If she was your first true love then that is why you love her so much. You will get over her ,trust me. It will take time but you will.
2006-11-17 09:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by onetoughhotbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in the world could you miss her?? I think you are just lonely and need a good woman so get out there and find yourself one
2006-11-17 09:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to open your eyes and look for someone that will appreciate you. i understand the two of you have been together for a long time but you need to move on. you already know that you need to leave her alone but you just want someone else to confirm it or else she may succeed in killing you the next time
2006-11-17 09:45:30 · answer #10 · answered by Quociana L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋