do you act out on your dislikes towards office people? I work in an office of 3 only and the other 2 are husband and wife, and she happens to be the boss' sister. I cant leave this job coz I've promised the boss I'd stay on to see the project thru.
Sob, sob, I so dislike them, the wife especially and I constantly have to pretend to laugh at her cynical jokes.
2006-11-17 01:34:49 · 34 answers · asked by inosome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We all pretend sometimes. As long as you can cope with the pretence and it is not spilling in to other areas of your life just do what you have to to survive.....but secretly know the pillocks might just get their reward sometime.
2006-11-17 01:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a nearly identical situation a couple of years ago - I had signed on to a company to cover the normal receptionist's 1-year maternity leave, and worked with 3 other people: the owner, his father and his wife. All 3 of them were incompetent, as well as being horrible people. There was actually someone else in the office at first - the original girl in accounting was a very good friend of mine. The boss sexually harassed her, kissed her, and when his wife found out, they fired her! That was when the wife "joined the team".
For the first few days after my friend was fired (the boss & his wife made up a crazy story that she quit, and seriously slandered her in the process) I couldn't go to work without crying. But I had 3 months left before the year was up, and needed the money. So I went in every day, faked smiles when I needed to, kept my head down and did my job.
It wasn't easy, but at the same time, I think I gained a lot of respect for myself and my ability to deal with problem situations. The fact that you have a set period of time (until the project is compelted) might make it easier for you -it did for me. You don't have to like the people you work with - you just have to maintain professional courtesy. So go in each day, do your job, and calm yourself with the notion that each day you suffer brings you closer to the day when you can walk out.
2006-11-17 02:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by idatedashton_didyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem!
Your not being "yourself"! I would not laugh at her cynical jokes for one. I would stand my ground, and not put up with nonesense...
Remember this, everyone who is "related" to the boss, will think that the World can revolve around "them" because "they" can do no wrong!
The boss wouldnt fire them, because they are relatives...You on the other hand are at thier mercy because of it.
Stand your ground and be yourself, and let them know that the boss needs your imput and that your important just like them.
What you can do, is "try" to find something that you like about each of them and build from that. But, if it truley wears on you, then discuss it with the boss and see if the situation can be eliviated to some point where it meets your satisfaction...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-11-17 01:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like fun at all. I've been in a situation similar, though I did like some of the people, just not all. I would suggest talking to your boss. Yes, its his wife that you can't deal with, but try to express yourself to him, maybe he'll let you go before the project is done, or take steps to limiting your time with his wife. Communication is always best.
2006-11-17 01:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by Angela D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a hard one....maybe if you distanced yoourself from them.....hopefully the job won't take too long to complete...count each day as a day closer to the end. What I wouldn't do is act on your dislike of her. It'll make things very uncomfortable in the office enviroment, and you spend more time there than anywhere else. Just bid your time.
2006-11-17 01:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by bendione 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never ever act on my dislikes to work colleagues. Its simply not worth it. In my last job I couldn't stand my manager and two of the women I worked for! I just left the job and moved on. Its best to keep things as professional as possible at work even though its hard sometimes but think of your references and your future reputation. Just finish the project, hand your notice in and leave.
2006-11-17 02:45:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A job will make or break a person. If your not happy in your job then I'm sure it's carried to your personal life too. You must be happy in this life. Too many things in this world to bring a person down. You don't need you job to add to that too. Life is way to short to be unhappy every waking moment. If you boss cared more for you other then a person who pays for his Big house and 5 cars, He would understand you feelings and do something about it. Bottom line, do what makes you happy. Worry about yourself, no one else will.
2006-11-17 01:46:35 · answer #7 · answered by highrange101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean--at my regular job, my co workers are pretty decent, but when they annoy, I go in my office and close the door. Sometimes I work for my BF when he's really busy, and his mom also helps out. She is a super nice person, and I like her alot, but working with her drives me insane! She has to talk every second (even just to herself). The constant chatter is maddening, and I really can't say anything, cause I don't want to hurt her feelings--I've taken to wearing an iPod there so I don't have to hear it.
2006-11-17 01:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you really need to finish the project and you want to then stick it out, BUT you didn't promise the boss that you talk to his sister, totally ignore her, IGNORE her, If you ignore her and just stick to task she can't touch you. Forget about her and she won't bug you as much, I used to flip off my boss behind her back, as immature as it sounds it used to make me feel great....don't laugh at her jokes either, you are not paid to be social with her, just do your work and go home, and leave her there at the office, don't take her home with you...!!!!good luck!!!
2006-11-17 01:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to pretend to laugh at her jokes because that means you are being false. If it is just a personality clash then just try to get along. If it is because she is saying something to upset or being too bossy you could try mentioning it to her in a quiet polite manner, but make sure you pick the right moment. She may not realise that she is upsetting you and she would be upset if she knew.
2006-11-17 01:45:02 · answer #10 · answered by patsy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no such thing as company loyality, so don't stay if you don't want to. push comes to shove you'd be out on your ear if the boss felt it needed to be. if the wife is making jokes and she tells a joke even slightly racist of bigoted then say i'm one of those or my dad is. something along those lines anyway, she would soon shut the hell up. don't put up with office a'ss'holes or the office biatch. they would railroad you no sweat.
2006-11-17 02:50:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋