Relationship situation?

Question

You have cheated on your partner

Do you either



Tell them what you have done so you feel better?

Or not tell them to save their feelings?

So?

Kelly xo.

This isn't me. I wouldn't do it it's just a question I hoped would raise some interesting answers. I'm stuck at sixth form you see.

Answer 1

If you had cheated, wouldn't that be the end anyway?

If you were in that situation, I would have thought the relationship was on it's last legs. Because why would you want to cheat on anyone you were really close to? If you were worried about their feelings you wouldn't cheat in the first place anyway. And if you were deceitful enough to cheat on them, surely you wouldn't feel any different, because only a really hard faced person would cheat on a person they had real feelings for?
surely you wouldn't want a person you loved to go through such an awful experience just for a bit of huffing and puffing?

Answer 2

It is betta u tell him cause the truth always comes out in the end and by then it will be 2 late and he may never 4give u. If u tell him there is still a 50 / 50 chance u can work it out.

Answer 3

I don't think it's cut and dried... you have to decide what you want from your relationship first. Do you want to stay with him? Was is a meaningless/drunken accident or fling? Do you think you can remain faithful to him for the remainder of your time together? If so, I don't think you should tell. However, if you cheated because your relationship isn't making you happy/fulfilling you, you and your partner need to talk about it. You are in a sticky situation.... You are the only one who can decide what to do. Think carefully about it!!!

Answer 4

You're doing it for all the wrong reasons. You tell him because its the right thing to do. Its not because it would make you feel better. Sooner or later he's going to find out. And it would be bad if he finds out from someone else. You cheated, you're going to have to face the consequences.

Answer 5

You do not tell them......it is selfish to unburden to make yourself feel better....cruel. If you want to save the relationship put whatyou did out of your mind.....learn from it and don't repeat but leave the innocnet part innocent. That would be my advice......you will not be the same person because of it all..........but you made a choice and have to live with it.

Answer 6

well i wouldnt cheat to begin with,

BUT hypothetically speaking, 'if' i did

then i would surely have to tell him and ask for forgiveness, and work hard to rebuilt that trust if he accepts me after that.

simply because he may find out anyway oneday and then i stand no chance of being forgiven or having a future with him.

and it would hurt him so much more that i lied to him for weeks / months / years....

i hope i am never in a situation like that

Answer 7

Honesty is everything in a relationship. If your upfront and tell your partner now, you have a chance of staying together. The longer you wait, the lesser the chance of this. That is if you care.

Answer 8

honesty is always the best policy ifhe loves u he will be hurt but willing to give u a second chance if u start the realtionship with a lie it will just go downhill and if he finds out from someone else it will devastate him good luck

Answer 9

If it were me i would tell my partner. He will find out in the end and i guarantee he wll say "i cant beleive you didnt tell me and i had to find out from someone else"

I know it hurts and its hard but its gotta be done and you wont feel guilty then as well!

Answer 10

Hiya! you gotta be honest and truthful to your partner. how would you feel if you were in his situation? If you can see yourself spending the rest of your life together you gotta be honest otherwise this big fat lie may stick with you forever! be brave and explain the situation to him then you gotta lot of making up to do! all the best & good luck!!