Do prayer and positive thinking work when you are going through difficult times?

Question

I am going through some difficult times. Nothing is working out in my life. I feel very depressed and that I have nothing to look forward to.

My marriage did not work due to control and abuse issues. My ex and I are trying to get back together. I have promised several times that I would return to him and I have not followed through. I feel guilty about hurting him. He is angry with me and calls me selfish and that I am basically the problem in his life.

My child who is a teenager lives with him. He asked for custody and I gave it to him. She does not have a good life and is not doing well in school.

I just started a new job that I do not like. I am living with my parents who are just protecting and tolerating me. They do not like me and my habits also.

My mother-in-law was saying that she wishes that I would have found someone since she has because my father-in-law passed away.

My life is a total mess and I don't know how to fix anything.

Answer 1

Simple,It's time to make up your mind about how to live your life by your terms and not others.First. If you really want him back,go back then,but why when he feels your the source of all his problems.Second. If your daughter is having problems at school and doesn't want your help,then don't give it and let your ex worry about that issue.Third.You have a job you can't stand,then go get another one you can stand.Fourth.Your working but stay with your parents that don't want you around,Move and get your own.Save your money,avoid them as much as possible and get out of there house as fast as you can.Fifth.If your mother in law can find someone,so can you,so get started.With some people to do your own thing means you have to get away from all of the negative people in your life,and you have a few to cut ties with.Some will hurt you to do it but it's for the best to have a happy future.Relocating to a new city\state can do wonders,think about giving that a try.Good luck to you whatever you decide.

Answer 2

Yes prayer changes. If you confess it from your heart and mean what you say. Start by telling God your true feelings about your troubles. Let him know that you know he's real and that whatever you ask for in prayer, you'll receive. (Matthew 21:22) God said that!! and with that you will open a door to his spirit and Im not tell you what to ask for but the best thing is wisdom. In Proverbs 4:7 it says getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do. If you live a life guided by wisdom, you won't limp or stumble as you run. You have to be healed by God to have order in your life! This is just a test and itll only make you stronger and wiser on how to live righteous. I hope that helped.

Answer 3

First, you are doing the right thing - talking about it. Set up an appointment with a counsellor. They will help. Talk to a priest or a minister it will help too. I think that prayer and positive thinking help a lot, it gets your mind off the problems and gives you something to believe in, which is what you need to get over this. I wish you luck, and remember, even though you feel like your life is a total mess, their are many people who still love and care about you. Take care.

Answer 4

Ofcourse prayer and positive thinking help in difficult times. I suggest you go to a Christian church in your neighborhood.. Talk to the pastor and ask for prayer plus he can counsel you. (It is free)

Divorce is not from God.
God restored my marriage and is better than before...He can do it for you but you need to have Faith in Him. Plus you need to ask Jesus in your heart. Try reading "Power of a Praying Woman" by Stormie Omartian. It is an eye opener in life, your marriage, children, your work and other relationships & most importantly a relationship w/ Jesus. All will be fine. Prayer is very powerful.
Satan wants to destroy you, your children and marriage. Don't let him! Take control of your life.
Here's some verses for you.

John 3:16
16 For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Jer 29:11-13
11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. 12 Then you will call upon Me and go and pray to Me, and I will listen to you. 13 And you will seek Me and find Me, when you search for Me with all your heart.

God wants the best for you, your hubby & daughter.

I pray the best.
God Bless!

P.S. If you want you can email me.

Answer 5

Yes prayer does work.....i went through a divorce 3 yrs ago and i feel for you....it is a heartbreaking time...at times i thought i would seriously go out of my mind....i still have hard times, but you can learn from every situation....it takes a lot of practice for positive thinking especially if you are used to looking for the negative....some of the most helpful sources i found was "joyce meyer and joel osteen books"....especially your best life now by joel osteen....they are very inspiring people...if you are depressed, i recommend that you seek professional help before it gets out of hand...it doesn't necessarily mean you will have to stay on medication the rest of your life, but it could help you through this difficult situation....the best of luck to you hang in there....God doesn't let one door shut without opening another :)

Answer 6

You need to get yourself some help. Talking about problems are a wonderful way of making yourself feel better. I strongly believe things happen for a reason...God will only give you what you can handle. Pray does work I am on my knees every am and pm and my prayers have been answered. Good luck!

Answer 7

Life becomes very difficult or uncontrollable wen u dont manage it well. first thing first ..Itz ur fault never ever promise sum1 wen u dont know wat ur future may hold or u r not sure of that..then definately people cal u selfish... i know u r not,but stil nvr make promises widout thinking abt all issues.. u have time u can save ur marriage rather, juz openly talk to ur husband,tel him if u still loves him,y u r doing the job wen u r unhappy with it,,go 4 another job.. try to find happiness in small things..dont make big issues,give love to ur child as far as u can do,change ur beahviour & ur bad habbits..& nature to ur parents.. Dont do such things that hurt ur parents, u can manage very well..
U can show ur parents & make ur image that u r not bad,u r wanted,by avoiding some habbits.. believe me everything wil go well.. & last thing have patience..time heals everything..dont get angry & try to love ur life & watever life gives u or shows.
BEST LUCK!

Answer 8

I've had 2 marriages, didn't last, watched the love of my life pass away from cancer, miscarried at the 5th month of my 1st pregnancy, after being told I would never have children (I now have an 8 year old, thanks to God). I am not feeling sorry for myself, just proving a point. If it had not been for prayer & God I would have committed suicide by now. If you reach out to him, he will bring you through it all. God Bless.

Answer 9

Positive thinking always helps. Instead of dwelling on the problems, focus instead on what your solutions could be. Try not to fall back into bad patterns and focus on a better you! If you think positively, you'll pretty much give yourself the will to succeed. When you think negatively, you'll just spiral into a terrible depression and feeling sorry for yourself doesn't just affect you, it affects everyone involved.

Things will get better.. If you want them to.

Answer 10

I am a firm believer in possitive thinking, you need to step out of your life and have some time to your self, join womens groups, yoga something that can retrain your mind, and also give you support..its hard when kids are envolved but dont think this situation is going to last for eva, think of things you can plan ahead...take a break.